I want to have a child but im only 15 years what should i do?

Answer 1

Your far too young to be thinking of having a child. your still a child yourself yet. wait until your older, have a good stable relationship, have a good job, and some money in the bank

Answer 2

You need to grow up yourself a little bit more. I am 32, and have only just had my first baby after alot of thought and consideration, we decided we were in a position to look after a child and perhaps have something to offer a child. We have a fourteen month boy, and yes it is wonderful. BUT it is also extremly hard work, exhausting, emotionally draining. My husband works full time and I work part time. Who is going to support your baby finacially? Who is going to support you through the sleepless nights when you are so exhausted all you want to do is curl up and sleep? Babys are great when they are happy and smiling, but what are you going to do when he has a tooth coming through and is screaming non stop for 48 hours? What if your baby is sick or disabled, do you have the resources to cope with something like that? You can't just give them back when something goes wrong. As a parent you are FULLY responsible for that babys life and well being.
My advice to you is enjoy the rest of your teens, it is soooo true, you are only young once, enjoy it. you have the rest of your life to be an adult and to cope with all the pressures that comes with that....bills to pay, worry about debt, raising children. Work hard at school, get yourself a decent education and some knowledge that you can pass on to a child. Think about it again In a few years when you are in a loving, stable relationship and when you truly can provide all the love and support a baby needs. I promise you you will not regret it if you wait, but you definatly will regret it if you don't. And so will your child.

Answer 3

Set your alarm clock for every 20 minutes through the night, get up and pretend to make a bottle, then spend another 30mins to an hour pretending to feed, and then change the baby and then attempt to go back to sleep before the alarm goes off for the next 20 minute cycle.

The through the day try and get everything you need to get done, done within 15-45 min time frames, including seeing friends, going out, homework, bathing, going to the toilet ... and while you're at it give yourself the most stress you can possibly give yourself ...

Then sit back and ask yourself whether you want to do all this yet? Why not enjoy a bit of your life, finish your education, live a bit, meet a nice man eventually and settle down and have a stable and happy home to bring a child up in.

My view would be to wait until you are older, emotionally stable and in a settled relationship.

Answer 4

DON'T!!! you should not even be having sex till your 16.your body has not stop developing yet. i know there are lots of girls your age having babies but 15 is way to young. i had my first child at 19 which is still young. i then had a council flat, my partner and i broke up although he had her at weekends i was still more or less on my own. all the dreams i had i could not do, had little money and even when i went back to work i was no better off! don't get me wrong i would not of changed it for the world but there is a hell of a lot of sacrifies you have to make.
if you still feel the same way in a couple of years and are in a strong relationship then if you feel it is what you really want then best of luck.
try and get educated first follow your dreams, travel because it be so hard to try and do that in the first few years of a babys life.

Answer 5

Honestly... wait.
It is no fun being a single parent with a demanding baby and this is what you would have to expect even if in an ideal world it would not come to that.

You would regret it later, honestly.

If you are maternal, I would suggest looking into a career in childcare when you leave school. That way you will be around children and part of their lives without having the commitment and missing out on things you should be experiencing.

Also then, when the time is right for you to have a child of your own you wil be fully equipped with all the skills you'll need to care for your own child.

Good luck!

Answer 6

You should have watched britains youngest mums and dads last night and saw for yourself how hard it is, been a parent isnt easy, you need to devote your life to that child and that means your needs come second!!! At your age its normal to be broody but it will pass, wait until your older are earning a good wage and are in a stable relationship that way you wont have any worries, if you get pregnant now the chances are your boyfriend will finish with you because he will not be able to cope with the stress of a baby and you may end up resenting the baby when your older because you will relise how much you have missed out on and how much of your time they take up. Im not lecturing you but you need to understand a baby is not a walk in the park nor is it a doll that you can just give back, good luck with your decision

Answer 7

You need to do some more growing up first before even considering having a child. Honestly, you are still to young for this now. Enjoy your own life some more and have fun. Once you are in a steady relationship/married, then you should start thinking about this. Having a child is a full time job and ask yourself if you are ready for that.

Answer 8

Sweetie... Wait till you are a bit older, 15 is so too young... You need to live your life first, get a boyfriends, infact go through a few, get more expirence of relationships, live with a man if you have to for a few years before having a baby with them. I am 24 and I got pregnant at 22 but I felt I wasnt ready and I had a termination, I was not in the right position, I regret the termination now but back then I felt I was not ready at all and the man who I was pregnant with we were not a couple and it all just was too much. Please wait.... Take Care xxx

Answer 9

Grow up first. Do you have any idea what a hard job it is?

You will never again have the freedom you have know if you have a baby. They take up every minute of every day, 24 horus a day.

You cannot ask a baby to leave you alone if you are ill, or tired, you have to struggle through with it. believe me, bringing up kids is hard work. Babies are cute, but they grow out of the cute cuddly stage FAST and quickly become demanding toddlers who defy you, argue, talk constantly, throw food around, break your jewellery, pull hair, have tantrums and are generally very selfish little creatures indeed.

Until you are older and have more life skills, you will find it very hard to be able to bring up your child and help them control their tempers and tantrums and become a decent human being. At 15 you just are not ready for it.

Dont even think about ityou silly girl, you are only a child yourself, wait until you are in a stable relationship and have a home and the love and support of a partner. Do you think at 15, your babys daddy is gonna stick around? No, he will be off with his mates while you are sat at home surrounded by shitty nappies and stinking of milk.

Its not glamourous or fun, kids are bloody hard work, and if you have one now, you are gong to miss out on so much fun.

In a few years you will be 18, when all your friends are out clubbing and partying, meeting guys and plannning holidays, you will be at home with a three year old, potty training and wiping up acciedents off the floor. Bit of a contrast in lifestyle, dont you think?

Kids are rewarding, but its best when you have two parents so you can support each other through it.

Im a mum of a four year old, my husband is great, but im the one who has looked after her for the last 4 years while he has been working, and its bloody hard work.

I dont regret having her, I love her dearly, but Im just trying to let you know the reality of babies.

Think about it. Your mates having fun, freedom, holidays etc.
You at home trying to stop a 3 year old from removing poo from a potty and smearing it on the carpet.

Answer 10

Having a baby is not fun. If you feel like you need love, do things for other people to make yourself happier.Self achievement is the best feeling!! go and achieve something that not alot of people your age are, growing up. Go out, have fun messing boys around!! get your heart broken, learn how to love, learn how to work with a hangover! Learn about babies, become a child carer, Make wonderful friends who influence you in the best ways and see how being happy does not mean have a baby. Why rush? you have your whole life ahead of you!!