u discovered that he had tonnes of woman underwears and bras in his closet.. and he tell u that marrying u is to hid his gay identity from his parents and friends..
he's leaving u for other man.... u n him had 3 children 2gether..
wat would u do..? this is a tricky situation where i read it on a newspaper..
2006-10-10 22:27:05 · 34 answers · asked by bLuR.? 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Hurrah, woo-hoo, celebrate. At least i wont have to have sex any more. I would still love him. I didnt marry him for the sex, he is my best friend and would still continue to be. I think we would stay together, and continue to be friends. The kids would adapt, with alot of love, kids accept most things. It would not affect how i feel about the man i married, i wouldnt like it, but that doesnt mean i would love him still. If your kid does something wrong, do you stop loving them, dont think so, you love the child not the sin. Same thing with the husband. The thing i would find hard, is if he left me on my own with seven kids, just because he is gay, doesnt mean, he can just walk out and leave us to cope on our own. I think there would have to be a slow transition. Heck he might even bring home some nice friends to talk too.lol
2006-10-10 23:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, for somebody you reckon is gay,
1: What's with the women's' underwear? That's not being gay is it?
2: Fathered three children with you - and how many times didn't you conceive? That doesn't sound very gay to me either.
3: Tells you that he only married for appearance sake yet in the next breath you say you saw it in the newspaper. WHICH one are we to consider?
4: All this took you ten years?
NOW COME ON - it doesn't all add up, does it!!! Seems like he's a bit of a bi and wants to give it a whirl with a bloke for a while, and you're so innocent that you didn't twig what you reckon was going on under your nose all the time....
Sorry. It doesn't all quite fall into place, if you see what I mean........
2006-10-10 23:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure what the wearing of women's clothing has to do with being a gay man and how a wife of ten years wouldn't have known what was in her closets, but whatever.
I guess I would reach a settlement for property and support(if needed), come to an agreement about who gets the children, visitation and support, then get a divorce and move on with my life.
Just like any other marriage that has failed.
2006-10-11 01:55:24 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems to happen in a lot of marriages nowadays, especially since being homosexual is becoming more "out of the closet" in the US.
I would help the children through this difficult time because they may not understand completely at young ages. If he wants to remain friends with you, do so...you have already been married for 10 years and know him somewhat. Perhaps you can discover why he felt it necessary to keep his feelings hidden from you.
2006-10-10 22:36:16 · answer #4 · answered by Stephanie B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get therapy.... FAST ! because you've been pretending not to notice he's gay for ten years.
Honestly... No one could live with a guy that long and then "discover" he has a wardrobe full ( tonnes you say) of ladies undies, and is in fact homosexual.
Where did you read this ? Dear Deardrie ? Honestly... those problem pages are made up, none of the letter are real. My aunt used to write a consumer problems column.... and would spend her Sundays dreaming up problems, and would Bin all the real letters.... Easy life, and no one takes you to court.
I'd like to take a moment to point out... the homosexuality has nothing to do with the wardrobe of ladies clothes, that is either crossdressing, or he's got a fetish.... I'd check the sizes ask myself who's they were ? and exactly how he got them.
2006-10-10 23:03:38 · answer #5 · answered by fordfiasco@btinternet.com 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Get a divorce, what else can you do. I surely would not spend the rest of my life with a man who said he only married me because he did not want everyone to know he was gay. I would feel very sorry for him. And i would have to figure out a way to explain this to our children. Wow, that would be a nightmare. I would feel as though he was a very selfish individual, he should not have brought children into the world or got married, he should have been true to himself and figured it all out. Not making a mess of others lives. I would be very hurt betrayed and angry. I would let him go, I would not continue to live and lie and then seek counseling for myself and my children. Wow. God Bless
2006-10-11 00:36:31 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 04:47:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that you and the kids are going through rough time. But you have to design your future. If you are not clear about what you want and where you are going you'll never get there.
I know that you are hurting, but please forgive, forget, focus on the now & the future.
Your husband has moved on. You have to do the same. No regrets, no "if only", no more "buts". Be strong.
You have been blessed with three beautiful children. They must be your priority.
Good luck & God bless you and your family!
2006-10-10 23:14:01 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Girl 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What I never understand about these situations is that if he had women's clothes in his closet how did the woman never see this? Same as when women are married to a serial killer for 20 years who buried their victims in their backyard and then she says she never suspected a thing....what planet are these people living on?
2006-10-10 23:59:32 · answer #9 · answered by Cichlid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing you can do, except get on with your life. Dont try and turn your children against him just to get back at him. He cant have been completely happy for ten years so surely this must have reared itself in your relationship in some form or other - are you sure you didn't stick your head in the sand?
2006-10-12 01:22:05 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋