Has anyone had any kind of treatment for shyness?

Question

I am so shy and get embarrassed when I have to talk to anyone. I go all red and can't think on my feet at times. I'm fine when I work on my own, but if I have to office share it's a nightmare, as I'm so quiet.

Answer 1

Please don't let people make you feel bad about the way that you are.
It's not a matter of self esteem or anything like that it's just the way you are. I'm the same way. I prefer to say that I am quiet instead of shy. Mainly because if I have something that needs to be said, (rarely) I say it and get it done with.
It doesn't matter the situation I turn red too. In my old job at the end of the day I had to tally up my sheets with two other employees that got a kick out of making me turn redder.(not in a mean way..it's just so easy to do). Always the comment that they had never seen such a thing before....oh well. I wasn't uncomfortable with them or anything...it's just the way that I am. I've never been able to think on my feet too but I have and above average IQ. It's just the way I am. Your world gets so much better when you realize that this is normal for you, that this is okay.

There are a couple of really good books out there one called: Party of One by Anneli Rufus and the other The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aaron...PLEASE look them up. They have web sites too.

Being the way you are is a wonderful gift.(though inconvenient at times).....

Answer 2

Keep putting yourself in social situations and make yourself talk to people. I know its hard but the best way to overcome shyness is to face it. Don't keep hiding away or avoiding situations it will be hard at first but you will get used to it the more you talk to people the more the shyness will go.

Pretend to be confident when talking to people even though you don't feel it and you will see how much better you feel. Be positive and tell yourself that you are worth listening to.

You could always get a job in a bar/restaurant its one of the most social places and you will have to talk and socialise with people so you wont be able to avoid it.

I know its hard but keep pushing yourself cos it really does work.

I used to be the same i was so shy. Now i love talking to people and being centre of attention. I just kept making myself talk and telling myself i was confident i never thought i could be like this.

Also if you say the wrong thing laugh it off and keep smiling it sends off good vibes everyone loves a happy person and someone who can have a laugh.

Good luck you can do it.

Answer 3

I used to be very shy - I wouldn't use that word exactly now, but more like 'introverted', 'solitary' and 'quiet'. I freak out when any attention is placed on me, and I despise working in groups. In large discussions I may have plenty of vauable ideas (better than everyone's!) but I never say them - unless I tell a friend who will say it instead. I think experience is the real key to any kind of "treatment", because classes are all very well yet you still need to develop the confidence to get out there in the real world. If it's leading to depression, I'd say you should talk to a doctor - and don't be afraid to confide in your doctor, they'll be patient.

Answer 4

There's nothing wrong with being quiet!! but when you've got something to say I thing you should say it. I am very shy too but when I feel bad when I have to speak with people I remind myself that the most people are faking and wearing fancy "masks" to hide themselves,like the actors in a movie. You can try to wear a mask to hide yourself too,it wouldn't be a very bad thing if you have to be with people that they are faking.But if you don't want to fake that you're feeling alright or if you can't (I can't no matter how I try) then you should try to understand who you are and what you like to do.For example I thing that I feel bad when I talk to some people because I don't want to talk to them!If you do things that you like and you don't push yourself to fake I thing that you will be ok!

Answer 5

My sister is really shy when we go out, but at home, shes a monkey! When you're by yourself or with a friend, are you still shy? Maybe you should start by talking to really close friends and family, and take the oportunity to talk as often as possible and get used to the fact. Even if your gonna blush, try to keep a straight face, and eye contact!

Answer 6

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Answer 7

to fix that same issue with me (now that i think about it i am still shy but everybody i know doesnt think so), i started not to put to much into what other people said or did. once you can not be hurt by ultimately strangers saying something to you or about you, then you will turn on your outgoing self more often. doing that over time will of course be practice and you will find out things about yoself and people that you thought you would never know. in essence though, you will probably still be shy just more outgoing/confident.

Answer 8

Shyness,in this talkative world, is a very good quality. Don't feel inconfident, keep calm, listen attentively then reciprocate calmly.

Answer 9

You couild be suffering from Social Anxiety. The normal treeatment is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy and possibly medication.

Take a look at the link below for more help.

Answer 10

Cognitive behavioural therapy. Theres a book by dr. david burns called "feeling good." Check it out, i reckon it'd really help. Its very simple and straight forward stuff that makes sense.