started a new job a couple of months ago there are about 10 other people working there, no one will talk to me.. i have never said or did anything to these people.i listen to them complain and talk about everyone but i never say anything, i dont beleive in talking badly about people becouse they are different, so i guess unless i do im not going to fit in with them, im very lonely 8-10 hours a day 6-7 days a week is a long time not to talk to anyone, even when i sit with them at breaks they just turn their backs to me, i really like this job and the money is good, but this problem is hurting me emotionally and mentally. what should i do??
2006-10-10 22:05:34 · 11 answers · asked by chrsandfro 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Bring in some donuts or cookies to share.
2006-10-10 22:12:16 · answer #1 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well this is a sad case but firstly you are paid to work not talk this sounds tough but that is what your boss wants .You may appear threatening to the others because of your hard work and morals.I must admit I left a job for that very same reason but I had many choices where i could work so it didnt worry me.In your case there may be no other good jobs i dont know because i dont know where your from and working at.My only advise then is say goodmorning to all you pass at work smile as much as you can hum a song you like and be patient with the other workers they will accept you in time .
2006-10-10 22:23:13 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it does not matter. For me life goes on. I agree when u say u dont beleive in talking badly about people, but guess what, giving opinion is not talking bad about people, open up ur self :-). maybe u can try to join them for lunch or something... its a step by step improvement that u need. I have the same problem once, but then, what i did is, i try to build up my confidence. i focus more on my strenght as an individual rather then fixing my weaknesses. And nowdays, it seems like everyone want to talk with me.... but if ur feel lonely, how about mailing me :-) and try searching for other relationship outside of the office :-)
2006-10-10 22:37:00 · answer #3 · answered by zal_mie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you poor thing, damn I feel you. Sounds like a bunch of eggs that need their heads cracked. Wheres your supervisor or floor person?Or are they included in with this lot, jeepers. You just soldier on girlfriend and dont get caught up with them just to fit in. Your way better than that, but I do feel you with them not talking to you and all, but dont feel discouraged or hurt. Just keep holding your head up and only up cause at the end of the day your all there to earn your pay, but thats all I can say aye girlfriend, a little prayer before you go into work wont go astray either. Ok, all the best my friend.
2006-10-10 22:34:05 · answer #4 · answered by lost_angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile and reach out to them. You seem like a kind and sensitive person and believe that someone will be friendly. Don't let anyone ruin your job there and don't give up trying as its early days yet. So move and be pro-active. Good luck.
2006-10-10 22:17:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a syndrome atypical when u r new to any place. just ignore it and just giv them a damn. wy do u have to care. i guess u r just fitting for the job, lest u wudnot have been there. so wy u care man!!
so do ur job, do it well, very well, dont giv thm scope to point at u. dont b harsh to thm, just chill out. dont be overreactive, dont show ur outburst to gel with them. u b objective and professional.
remember, job place attitude shud b one not so estranged and one not so involving. keep a balance.
ur attitue will speak and trust me in no time u gonna have more friends than u have imagined.
2006-10-10 22:18:22 · answer #6 · answered by mimpi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to them once you make 1 friend you will be able to make a lot more act fast is better.
2006-10-10 22:16:44 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
making friends is great but you should not lower your standards to make them coz, friendship should have a strong foundation to survive.
I guess the only thing to do is bide your time. they will grow accustomed to you and respect your integrity
2006-10-10 22:33:12 · answer #8 · answered by Doc M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to them, see if anyone wants to go for a drink after work
2006-10-10 22:07:45 · answer #9 · answered by sleepwalker69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that u have to be patient.Try to be the best continue an active intercourse with them
2006-10-10 22:31:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋