i hate sex,,,,, i dont know what is wrong with me, i have 2 children already, so im having sex, but i just dred having it. help
2006-10-10 21:54:08 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i used to hate it!
u just need to work at it! :-)
2006-10-10 23:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by laura b 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I use to hate it, it even turned into me hating him touching me. or i just wanted it over and done with VERY quickly.
But now i can't get enough, i even find myself wet at times of the day when i'm just doing normal things cos i feel so horny, so this proves you can change the way you feel about it. But you have to work at it, try and change the way you think about sex.
Sounds to me as though you are bored with it so you have started to hate it. bit like a chore.
Is he a bit samey in bed? perhaps you should try other rooms.
Try not to expect to orgasm through sex. Play with your clit while he's making love to you, make him really turn you on before oyu have sex, show him, not all men are psyhcic to how you are feeling about this so he can't help it change, unless you have a nice quiet word.
If you go out for something to eat, sneak in toilets, etc it's all about keeping the fun alive, so you don't get bored and don't end up hating it.
Just cos we get older doesn't mean we have to have the same routine.
Make yourself feel sexy, go have a massage buy some sexy boots, your imagination is a wonderful thing, when your in the bath make up scenes that you would like yourself to be in, pretend, anything to make you feel soo horny. Everyone does it.
Good luck hun
2006-10-10 23:48:07 · answer #2 · answered by Lolly 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was like you, it broke my marriage up in the end. I felt like a freak my friends didn't feel like me so nobody gave me any advise and my husband made me feel soooo guilty. He even thought at one point I was having an affair, he said if I wasn't getting at home I must have been getting it somewhere else. Three years later having been on my own and not looking for anyone, I met my now partner. I can't get enough! I won't live with him and I think that helps, not being expected to do it all the time and we do things that I wouldn't have dreamt of with my ex. Don't know if inwardly I was bored of my ex but I'm happy now and enjoy sex as much as when I was twenty! I'm not in a rut anymore.
2006-10-10 23:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by jeeps 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Is it perhaps a partner problem. You don't mention if you love him or even have any depth of feeling for him? Is he a considerate lover or a wham bam man. All these things have a bearing. Do you ever have a romantic gfantasy or a sexy dream? Sex therapist springs to mind. You are missing such a lot by hating sex.
2006-10-10 23:24:59 · answer #4 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have two children, you either work out of the home or in it full time, the children demand your time, your job demands you time.
Then it's time for bed, the last thing on your mind is sex. Sometimes you just have to remove yourself from life, kick back and enjoy. Find time to have sex, either in the middle of the day or early in the morning, before the children wake.
Hope this helps.
2006-10-10 23:15:02 · answer #5 · answered by eyes_of_iceblue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like boredom has arrived in your sex life. Try something different, sexy underware, a candle lit dinner. Talk with your partner about the problem, maybe he do not even know you have a problem.
2006-10-11 01:06:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u hate sex !! i love it !!
but i think now it is not going 2 create much trouble 4 u as u already have 2 children !!?? so not a big problem 4 u if your partner does not have any problem !!!!??
2006-10-10 23:36:42 · answer #7 · answered by smart 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow you must be the first person to say that. Why dont you try different positions maybe you will like it that way. Just ry and relaz the more you think about the mosre you will hate it. Maybe your not with the right man????
2006-10-10 23:41:42 · answer #8 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some counselling ... talk to your partner ... experiment more ... learn to relax ... maybe try tantric sex (like Sting)
Talk to me, I'm a doctor ... lol ... I can help you get over your irrational fears!
2006-10-11 00:52:38 · answer #9 · answered by Marinersfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take time out from the kids once in a while and don't do it cos you have to. Relax and enjoy yourself then you will enjoy and want it more.
2006-10-13 05:17:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may be due to harmonal changes in ur body . are u taking any contraceptive pills or shots , sometimes these things also brings such changes . consult ur doctor .
2006-10-10 23:04:25 · answer #11 · answered by joey i 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋