I'm 27 My Ex Boyfriend Is 23- We Have Known Each Other For A Year And A Half - I Really Love This Guy And Want To Get Back With Him( I'm His First Girlfriend) - He Has Spina Bifida( A Birth Defect) - Lately He Has Been Telling Me That He Loves Me Soo Much And That He Wants To Marry Me In The Future- I TOTALLY WOULD MARRY HIM IN THE FUTURE- My Problem Is Is That He Has A Learning Disability And Gets SSI Because of His Birth Defect And His Mom Is His Payee- Should I Ask Her If He Would Be Able To Get Married And Have Kids Or Should I Just Find Another Guy? I REALLY DO LOVE THIS GUY THOUGH
PLEASE SOMEONE HELP
2006-10-10 21:37:45 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
People with handicaps often have a more philosophical and mature perspective on life than those who have never had to struggle with difficulties. Why did you break up? How severe is his learning difficulty? Some people with spina bifida get university degrees and do work too. Could your friend get special training to be able to work? He would feel great to have accomplished that. His mother may still remain his social security payee to make sure that his needs are met until you could manage that task. Sometimes it is very difficult.
If you want to have children, you may consider that when one parent has spina bifida, there is about a 4 percent chance of passing the disorder on to the baby.
In your decision to marry your friend, you should consider what commitment you would be making to take care of him. Now you can enjoy his company apparently while his mother takes care of his needs. If you think that you can handle that, then go ahead. If not, you can still be close friends with this guy and have a more traditional boyfriend. Examine what your motives are as regards to why you love this person and you will be able to answer your own question.
2006-10-10 22:32:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
True love only comes once in a life time. Follow your heart.
Don't be swayed by things that you can't control.
There are so many children out there that don't care about whom their parents are, they just care if their parents love them.
If you REALLY DO LOVE HIM, then think of how you will feel without him. It sounds complicated. But it sounds like you belong together.
2006-10-11 05:07:57 · answer #2 · answered by meowzer mix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You love him so marry him! It shouldn't matter if he has a disability. If you truly love him, you'd see beyond that. You'd be lying to youself if you spend your life with someone else since you know that your heart belongs to him. You know it, you've said it yourself so go for it! Please don't ask his mom whether he'll be able to have kids or not. You guys can overcome obstacles if you truly love and support each other. Good luck and best wishes..........
2006-10-11 04:47:46 · answer #3 · answered by * TeXaS cHiCk * 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out exactly what the illness all about in detail first. Whether you have future with him or not? Be realistic because love is blind. check this link for more info.
2006-10-11 04:47:19 · answer #4 · answered by jes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry him! Talk to his mom too, she's going to be able to give you so much help and advice, so it's going to be important to keep her informed of what's going on. Good luck!
2006-10-11 04:40:25 · answer #5 · answered by stienbabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love him, then do whatever you have to do to be with him - life is too short to worry about the ins and outs of things
2006-10-11 04:40:09 · answer #6 · answered by schmushe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you marry him, the social security office will mail the checks to you instead of his mother. I know cuz im on soc sec
2006-10-11 04:39:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
marry the guy then take all the risk might happen if u really love him w/o hesitations. at least u got the one u really in love with...
2006-10-11 04:55:34 · answer #8 · answered by Alien_X-skywalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are willing to take on the responsibility of taking care of him, than why not? sounsds like a true sign of love.
2006-10-11 04:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by gallow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you love him you should stay with him. ok your 27 and you want to keep looking when you love this guy? are you a fukkin whore? grow up and marry him ya nasty skank, he cant help it he has a disease. you can adopt.
2006-10-11 04:40:43 · answer #10 · answered by SEXYSEXYSEXYSEXYSEXY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋