If your husband fathered a child with another woman, will you still forgive & accept him?

Question

This is a true story: A friend with 2 growth-up children fathered a child outside his marriage. Just want to hear the respond of women out there. Pls indicate your nationality so as to understand your view. Thanks!

To tell you the verdict : his wife actually forgiven him and they are still staying together.

Answer 1

it happened to my mother but she is still strong in supporting us..so we should just ignore him as my father is still in indonesia with her wife..my mom stayed strong so she did not do anything but support us...but since if it is my husband..no way hoseh..a lawyer he will get

Answer 2

Lets look at this another way....
What if he had just had sex with the other women? No child had been conceived!

Would this be different?

The point is he has clearly been unfaithful and he must now face his responsibilities!!!!!!!!!!!

This is a very hard situation but maybe he just made a mistake that has left him with a lifetime of responsibility....

If your friend can forgive and trust him then YES give it a go but if NOT then say goodbye now as there is no point continuing with trust....

I hope your friend gets through this difficult time!

Answer 3

I am white although I don't see what this has to do with nationality. Would women of a different nationality really feel differently about this? I don't think I could ever forgive my husband for such a big betrayal. Either way I would lose a huge amount of respect for him not to mention trust. He would need to take responsibility for his action and I could not deal with having that child as a part of my family or my life.

Answer 4

American - It's hard to say, actually currently trying to figure this one out. You really never know how you will feel until the bomb is dropped. Unfortunately my children are still school age and adore their daddy, I am loath to take that from them. He did (or will when they find out) that. Counseling has told me to consider all things including this innocent child. Also to take your time in making a life altering decision. I know that is not an exact yes or no answer but it is the best that can be given now.

Answer 5

I'm American and it just depends on the circumstances. If we could raise the child without a lot of baggage from the biological mother I could get over it easily. I don't want to have to deal with another woman. If she gets to be a pain it would complicate the matter.

Answer 6

H**l no, I would not forgive him. I can not accept a liar and a cheater. I mean how can you ever trust him again? I would be a nervous wreck everytime he was out of my eyesight. Who wants to go through that? I can do bad by myself!!!!!African-American

Answer 7

I wouldnt. How would he feel if I popped out another man's baby? I couldnt look at him without hating him and most likely I would look for love elsewhere. When trust is gone...there's no repair, unless ppl are living a lie.

Answer 8

English - If he fathered a child whilst married to me, that would be the end of the relationship, However, if it was before we were together as a couple - I would accept it and welcome the child into our family

Answer 9

Never coz this is betrayal. Hurting me and breaking my trust in him. I will never forget nor forgive and never let him forget. He will be out of my life but i will be cursing him all my life...if i really love him. Am a Mauritian.

Answer 10

i'll never forgive it, but i can accept the child, cause the child is unknown his father like that. if he really love your friend, he never do something felt sorry to she.