my boyfriend is now 24 and i really love him! he says that he loves me to, but i dont know if thats actually true, cause he is a heroine addict! does any1 have any advise for me? pls help!
2006-10-10 21:11:54 · 15 answers · asked by frankie 2 in Games & Recreation ➔ Other - Games & Recreation
Everyone needs a fair chance in life and this chance is given to us only by people who love us or those who are close to us. Try to get him to some rehabilitation centre & try getting him out of addiction. Try your best to get him out of the addiction but if he still continues and doesn't changes after all your efforts, by all means you can say goodbye to him and this relation. Love is never one sided, its give & take. You will find your true love. One more advice - always go for someone who loves you more than you love the person, that way, he will always keep you happy.
2006-10-10 22:01:43 · answer #1 · answered by ¨°º¤•§îRîu§ ¤[†]¤ ߣã¢K•¤º°¨ 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I would say because you wasn't acquitted of all charges against you and you probably don't have a very bad sleeping problem and because the world isn't fair.You can't speak on fairness of another man's life,you wasn't getting your a$$ beat by Joe Jackson You weren't constantly on tour throughout your lifetime and missed the chance to properly grow up.
2016-03-18 07:45:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing he loves right now is his drugs. Do yourself a favor and just walk away. I know it is hard, but later you will be glad you did. I'm not preaching, I have been in the same situation.
2006-10-10 21:21:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may think he loves you but remember this: His one and only love will always be the drugs! It alters your thinking also so who this man really is may be gone forever. He will always be an addict for the rest of his life whether he decides to quit or not. You may be in for a long long journey with him if you decide to stay with him. My best regards to you.
2006-10-10 21:16:32 · answer #4 · answered by soniaatcalifornia 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
A drug addict isn't in his right mind therefore, he can't truly love you. Get out of this relationship before YOU end up in jail.
2006-10-10 21:24:52 · answer #5 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As the ex of an addict who went out with him for 10 years, I will tell you this. The guy you are seeing now is NOT who he really is. The drug and addiction take over in such a way that it clouds who he really is completely. When I was with my ex (who recently just died mind you), we both started going to church (me first then him...I got him to go as a means of finding salvation), and he stopped using for a while. I was SHOCKED at what I saw... a totally different person. The person he really was DIDN'T EVEN REALLY LIKE ME....its amazing what you will find UNDERNEATH him when he removes the drugs. The inherently don't like themselves to begin with which is why they start using. There are so many details...but the best thing you can do for him, if you REALLY LOVE HIM...is to tell him you no longer want to see him, to give you time to recover from the heartbreak of having to leave him, to get over him so to speak, and then when you are ready, you will always be there for him to talk if he needs to, etc... don't try to stick it out. I went out with mine for 10 years and he never ever recovered. He stole from me, he lied to me, even cheated...why? Because dishonesty is part of the deal with this...they develop a dishonest personality which HELPS them get high in the first place. This guy needs recovery...and you can really help get him there so that he has a real chance at living and truly knowing how to love someone by learning to love himself through you IF you dig your heels in, show him tough love (as well as yourself because the girlfriend of a junkie is also one that needs help...maybe NANON?) and move on. You aren't dating your boyfriend, you are dating a puppet that is controlled by drugs. Take it from me... many years of hurt, and heartbreak.... I spent 10 years with him, 10 years separated from him, and then he died. I went to his funeral, wake, everything, with his family, and it hurt to see him die just as if I had been with him all that time. Maybe if I'd have been tougher, it may not have come to that. Help him by being strong and letting him go.
-Newlife...
2014-08-26 08:23:12 · answer #6 · answered by Newlife 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As recovering addict of meth I have to tell you that him loving you is not the key element here, nor you loving him, it is him loving him. He has to take a step back and realize that he cannot truly love himself with this weight that hangs over his head. He must first break through the chains that bind him and once he finds himself standing in the light of salvation he will then truly love himself enough to devote his life to you and not to that false paradise. For one day his life may be over and he will have never gotten that chance. And you wont either. My prayers are with you in your journey.
2006-10-10 21:20:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
He may trully and sincerely love you, however, when it will come to chosing between you and heroine, I'm afraid you'll be very disappointed!...
If there is true love between you, try and help him rehabilitate; it needs lots of good will, efforts both physical and psychological as well as love!
Good luck!
2006-10-10 21:21:28 · answer #8 · answered by ngiapapa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you enjoy living your life worrying about him and watching him hurt himself then keep up the relationship but remember his love for you will remain second most important thing in his life.
You should be #1.
2006-10-10 22:06:59 · answer #9 · answered by peppermint_paddy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm actually in this situation now......First of all, it really sucks! like one guy said that answered you....He has to love himself first...than he can love you....i use to use so I know...I made that first.....didn't love myself....I do now...but I have to make the decision whether I want to ride it out or get the hell out.....only you know............but he has to want to stop...if not.....u know the answer....doesn't it suck never knowing where he is...if he's dead or alive....not a good feeling. Ask your higher power for guidance.
2006-10-13 13:00:02 · answer #10 · answered by oneNirvanablue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋