What does a woman mean when she says i really dont need a man? Why are women direct with women and indirect with men? Do women like men or do they justlike attention? Can men and women be friends? Can they have sex and be friends? Who tells more lies men or women?
2006-10-10 21:04:13 · 9 answers · asked by senseofhonor 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
"What does a woman mean when she says i really dont need a man?" - she means that she has been disappointed or deceived by a man once too often. She is trying to fool herself that she is happy alone, because she is too scared of being hurt again.
"Why are women direct with women and indirect with men?" I don't think this is true. Women are indirect with women too, but we don't need directness, we understand each other. Unfortunately a lot of women expect men to be the same. If I hear a friend complain about her man doing something wrong, I'll say "have you told him?", and she will say, "I shouldn't have to, he should know!" If us women all got used to the fact that we have to spell things out to guys, life would be much easier!
There are women who like men and then there are the selfish ones who just like attention. There are plenty of men like that too.
Yes men and woman can be friends, but they can't have sex and be friends. And men and women are both people and they both tell lies.
2006-10-10 21:11:42 · answer #1 · answered by Kylie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually when a woman says they don't need men it means they are fed up with being hurt by them. Women are afraid of loving to much and thats why we are indirect with men. Women like men and even love some men. Men and women can be friends. I don't believe men and women can have sex and be just friends. Usually one person starts feeling more for the other. As far as lies I think it depends on the situation. Women will tell white lies not to hurt someones feelings. Any woman will tell you that she would like a fairytale love story with a man. But what she really means is that she wants a man that will love her and always do the best he can to provide for her needs. Whether it be emotional, physical, or even financial. Any women that are in a relationship just for financial reasons has probably been hurt and afraid to break down the wall they've built up. And afraid to love.
2006-10-10 21:19:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I can only speak for myself when I answer these questions. Honestly, when I look for a man, his appearance comes first. (I'm shallow!) His personality comes second. If he's not the best looking guy in the world, but is a great person, I will date him. I definitely don't seek money, (I didn't even get child support from my ex.) I like to have my own without someone constantly reminding me what they have given me. When I say I don't need a man, that's what I mean. I can pay my own bills and take care of my family by myself. I personally don't like attention, but it is nice when someone compliments you once in a while. Most of my friends are men because women play too many head games. I don't like to be around childish people like that. I'm very "say what you mean and mean what you say"! I think men and women lie equally. I try my hardest not to ever lie though. It's pointless. It just causes more problems in the long run. As for the sex question, some people claim they can have sex and be friends, but I think that's a lie. Someone will get hurt because they have developed feelings. Why go through that?!
Next time, try to keep to one or two questions please!!!
2006-10-11 02:19:36 · answer #3 · answered by faierylady 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow! You have had some nasty relationships. All women are different. You first have to know the kind of woman you want and then make a strategy to find her. Where she would hang out, who she would hang with, what would attract this type of woman and than pray for this woman you are looking for. The "I don't need a man " means she's not interested in you, A woman and a man are not the same and their feelings of directness is different, All humans want attention, women can't live without it unless they are saintly. To a woman, security is more important than attention, though. Men and women can be friends, but in most cases, one of them has some feelings for the other. A lie for a woman is different than a lie for a man. For me, it is a spiritual thing. I believe a lie is a sin and avoid them, but for others, men and women, think it is acceptable. You sound like a good man with healthy moral ethics. You seem honest,
loyal, smart and have strong values. There are many women with these same attributes but it takes a big search in the right places. As for women and money: Money to all is security. If you don't want a women that lives for money, look for a women who doesn't have alot of money, they are usually more grounded. You can tell by their purse and shoes! Good luck in your search.
2006-10-10 21:40:49 · answer #4 · answered by belladmma 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is true that women are indirect with men. So, whatever a woman tells you, just think the opposite. If she tells you that she doesn't need a man, then she is saying she wants one. If she tells you that money isn't important, then it is. If she tells you that looks aren't important, then they are. However, there are some women out there who are straight shooters, and they will be totally direct with everybody. So, you have to watch out for those types of women. Otherwise, the opposite stands true to whatever a woman says.
2006-10-10 21:11:47 · answer #5 · answered by Mr. Main Event 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me I say I don't need a man because I want to be independent enough in my life that I don't have to rely on a man. And I don't need a man to complete me, I am happy as I am. I think that sometimes all of us can be indrective when it comes to the other sex. Maybe because we are afraid to open up. I do think men and women can be friends without sexual attachment. But you can't tell me that people don't think about the other friend sexually. I like attention, I think a lot of women do. I like the cuddling and the snuggling. Having sex as friends is really hard. It brings up a lot of issues and changes the dynamics of the relationship. I wouldn't want to risk the friendship. As for lies, it isn't gender specific. I think a lot of people tell lies and being male or female has nothing to do with it. I know that when you first meet someone a lot of times we put on airs and kind of are on our best behavior. We want this new person to like us but at the same time some of us pretend to be someone we are not. Dating is hard and it isn't easy but you can find the right person. I don't think there is just one person out there for us. I think that there are many people we can connect with in a way that makes us fall in love. It is important for me to find a man who is settled in his life, has a job, pays his bills, is honest, and is kind. So money is kind of important because I want a man who has money to take care of himself. I have never gone out with someone for money and I would never do that..
2006-10-10 21:19:37 · answer #6 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women want a Passionate Understanding Lover who is able to give multiple orgasms.
2006-10-10 21:13:39 · answer #7 · answered by fatsausage 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your questions are very funny. You seem like a starved lonely person. Get a life.
2006-10-10 22:21:12 · answer #8 · answered by Banana Pie 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only one question at a time, please. If you want to ask more questions, put another quarter in.
2006-10-10 21:12:42 · answer #9 · answered by vinny_the_hack 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋