Hubby and i got married when we were 21(11 yrs ago). I thought he likes woman by talking, dating etc, but recently his latest girlfriend confessed that its to extent of taking them to bed and worst still on our bed. She has done 4 abortions so far. I support the family especially time and money. We have 3 kids ages 11,9, 6. I want to leave him but i stayed because of my children. I'm sexually active. I can't imagine life without sex if i divorce..What should i do?
2006-10-10 20:39:00 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would recommend marriage counseling and then decide what you want to do. remember sins of the parents pass down to the kids unless you do something to change the behaviors that they are learning from you between right and wrong. There is a lesson in all of this from God for you two, he's trying to tell you something and you need to listen. Its up to you and your husband to show your kids the right way to behave in marriage and life, so that they dont' make the same mistakes.
2006-10-10 20:51:46 · answer #1 · answered by Monica G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh wow, our avatars look alike. you probable married too youthful, earlier you have been the two waiting. the least confusing element to do is break up. then you truthfully could have "new" all you decide on. i think this new guy does not be as thrilling to you in case you will have him each and all the time. you're announcing it somewhat is not revenge, although that's. in case you somewhat need to have the affair, why not tell your husband? Say that he have been given his one fling, so which you will desire to get one, too. See the way it is going over. perchance you have your marriage and your affair. although, it is going to truly harm the different guy in case you reside alongside with your husband: your coworker isn't a toy. the respond is counseling the place you communicate approximately your choose for an affair. have you ever stated this in counseling? in case you won't be in a position to do it alongside with your husband, make an appointment and bypass by myself, or bypass to a diverse counselor. The counselor can help you compromise on what to do.
2016-12-16 05:46:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your self esteem must be at an all time low. get rid of him now. do you actually think you are doing your kids a favor staying in that kind of relationship. why would you want to be with any many who doesnt want you? Believe me, you will be fine and men are a dime a dozen when you are newly divorced and looking, sex will be there. i cant believe thats all your worried about. you need to talk to a shrink. after you boot him to the street. have some respect for yourself girl
2006-10-10 21:09:10 · answer #3 · answered by sherry 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
So Sad! I've been there. First, get an aids and STD test. His activities are taking a chance with your health. Start praying and getting to know God better. Take a long good look at yourself. What is your stress level and how much more can you take?
Don't leave until YOU feel you have to for your own health and sanity. I couldn't leave until I didn't love him anymore. I had to know I tried everything to make it work before I gave up. Don't worry about life after divorce because those answers will come with time. You are now in your sexual prime--just be careful with your health. My kids were small also and even though they said it was tough, they are strong, caring adults now. Be loving and take each one out by themselves once in a while. Give them special time. Tell them facts about things but DON"T talk badly of their dad because they will hate you for it. Pray for your husband and for your kids. Remember to look at yourself in the mirror and smile because you are young and beautiful. Us old gals are so jealous! I'll pray for you!
2006-10-10 21:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by belladmma 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I have read and re-read your question and explanaions under it. I think that your husband is indeed very infidel. He is cheating on you. He is interested in other women. You are his wife and as such you are under his bracket. If you are sexually active and you cannot live without him, then it is better to quit him for good. He is not reliable. You should look for other b/f and he should be such friend who can undersand your position and also of your children.He should be quite sincere with you. Your hubby is ******* other girls on your bed, which is too much. It is most shameful for him. He is not a good husband. He is worthless and must be taught a lesson.
2006-10-10 20:49:44 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
More than sex, i think the future of your kids is mportant. All men are by nature pleasure seekers... It is mainly the situations that lead such incidents..many of them will be to able to come back to normal life if the "isuue is handled proprly".
Plz try a some marital counselling - I am sure it will help him relize his mistakes and focus on you and your family. Good luck..
2006-10-10 21:55:38 · answer #6 · answered by deamer boy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Are you serious? You would rather stay in this unhealthy marriage where this guy treats you like dirt just so you can have sex!! Sister this is the age of electronics! you dont need a man for that any more, besides you may find some one else who will love you and respect you. Dont let him do this to you. Kick his **** to the curb!
Good luck
2006-10-10 20:45:08 · answer #7 · answered by Sherry Baby ( Ethan's Mama ) 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
you have to get rid of him ASAP, you could never trust someone ever again. If my other half cheated i would be gone before they could say sorry.
As for stay together for the kids DONT. i speak from experience it will not work it will be a waste of your life and your kids do you want them to be raised its ok to stay with someone even if they cheat on you........NO
you need to be strong and say good bye. And dont worry there are plenty of men out there that want to have sex and with just one person
2006-10-10 20:50:17 · answer #8 · answered by ukusa75 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Try to get him some help, and find out why is he doing this.
Marrage counseling would be advised and if that doesn't work, you will need to start tucking money away,get some legal advise, and make sure you are prepared to do this on your own. I am sorry and I will pray for you.
2006-10-10 20:44:47 · answer #9 · answered by blonndilox 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you support the family, so it seems like you are the one wearing pants NOT him!
why should you stay with him after knowing that he's cheating on you! you should ditch him! so, stay with him just for the children's sake or your sexual life!?!
you should go and talk to a counsellor and get some help.
2006-10-10 21:20:08 · answer #10 · answered by immortal1983 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋