A friend is always saying he feels flat, out of it, unwell i dont know him that well?

Question

i havent known him for long and almost every conversation we have he mentions one of these three, he seems happy enough and is kind and sweet, not bitter but he doesnt talk alot ive noticed, but when i talk about somthing to do with me he seems genuinely interested and he always reasures me that his mood is not because of me, he also compliments me and holds eye contact with me. Is he opening up to me in a way or trying to tell me he is not interested i cannot be sure either way!

Answer 1

Perhaps he needs a change to his diet. A lack of caffeine and sleep can cause this problem. Tell him to join a gym and go running in the morning. He may feel better. Some Vitamin A and iron might help, too. Peppiness.

Answer 2

When I was younger, I was a lot like your friend. I used to always say.. "I'm tired," or something along those lines. He may have a lot of stresses beating him down and if he's anything like me, he won't admit it until he's ready to. He sounds like the kind of guy that you need to make the move on first if you're interested in him.

He may be trying to set a really high standard for himself, and if he feels he is not accomplishing this standard in his conversations or thinks that you don't think he's meeting this impossible standard he's set for himself he says something like that as an excuse for why he's not meeting this standard. In fact, I bet that this is exactly what it is, even though I've obviously never met the guy and I know almost nothing about him except for what you told me.

It's kind've a bipolar thing and it's something he'd have to work out on his own. Give him some subtle reassurance that you like him, it sounds like he may need it a lot.

If he says something like that everytime there's a quiet moment, he's blaming the quiet moment on himself, know what I mean?

I know you want to help him, but he'll really have to grow out of it, because that standard he's set for himself is something that he's so passionate about that he'll refuse to believe that he can't meet it. Don't take it as being something against you at all.

Answer 3

He's probably doped up.