unhappily married to a computer addict...is there hope?

Question

My hubby spends ALL of his time on his laptop. Our relationship has come down to him making noises or saying 2 words as I walk past (while I'm trying to do 5 things at once). He neglects me, our daughter, his responsibilities. I am also expected to do all of the housework, cooking, cleaning, laundry, shopping, finances etc....He wants me to stay home because if I work it will cut into his time. I have no life because I have to take care of everything while he does what he wants. I was madly in love with him when we married 3 years ago. His computer thing started when I got prego 2 years ago. He is no longer the man I once loved. (I think I hate him). Do you think there is hope for our marriage? I have no income and am afraid of him getting custody in a divorce. I welcome any suggestions...thanks

I have tried killing him with kindness,
going on strike (no housework),
letting bills pile up,
not cooking for him,
I named the laptop "Janice",
I love to be naked...

Gurney...the plan was that I would get an education before our daughter started school....I know if I stay it will not happen...is it time to move out and start over or has anyone else been through this? This has been going on for 2 years now and getting worse...I am desperate for and advice and does anyone think I will ever be able to get the man I loved back?

anybody please help...keep in mind that I have my daughter that need to come first...that's why I'm still here.

Answer 1

Smash his laptop with a hammer. If he divorces you for doing that, thank him.

Answer 2

Hmmmm, sounds familiar, try prying me away from the computer. Well I would have some suggestions, but he uses a laptop, so it makes it a bit more difficult. I guess one thing you could do to annoy him, and hopefully get him off the laptop, is to disconnect your internet modem so that he doesn't get any internet connection. You could also, though it is a bit malicious, use his laptop when he's not looking, then go delete some important windows files, that way his laptop won't be able to run properly (its a really mean thing to do though, especially if he hasn't backed up any important data). I suppose if it really came down to it, you could try to "offer" yourself nonstop so that he will have something more important to tend to than the laptop.

Answer 3

get yourself a computer and get on the internet and send him some emails. Find out some of the sites he visits and visit some of them. Okay more serious note, stop trying to do 5 things at once. You are being stupid female why is he controling you? beter yet why are you letting him control you? sorry but you are the only problem. You keep saying he wants and what do you do, just what he wants, stop. or stop complaining one of the two.

Answer 4

I just got my laptop, and my dog doesn't object. She just sleeps at my feet, but I do take her out.
Maybe get interested in some of the stuff he's looking at. You could buy a sexy outfit and parade around..... Maybe bring out the coolwhip and strawberries.
Why not leave some of the chores for him to do? Why should YOU Do EVERYTHING? Maybe if he sees something that he wants done, and you sit and watch TV----possibly the tide will change! Try IT - but don't do everything- you'll run yourself ragged!

Answer 5

Go back to school and learn a trade that will provide for you and your children very well. (Maybe nursing or some other well-paying job.) He will resent it, since it will force him to do some of the things around the house. Promise him whatever you have to promise him in order to keep things going until you graduate. In the meantime, things will continue to deteriorate between the two of you. Once you graduate, leave him.

Answer 6

a million. woman 2. 33 3. 6 years 4. fortunately :) 5. i think of the secret to my chuffed marriage is that we artwork as a team and we've issues we do together and issues we do seperately. We spend somewhat some time together and as quickly as in awhile, as quickly as we start to force one yet another loopy, we do our very own element. he's taking the boys to the basketball courtroom or our youngest to the flicks and that i lunch with the girls or play a working laptop or computing device interest. it is all approximately compromise and communique, a minimum of for us.

Answer 7

Unfortunately you married a boy.

You either knew he was a boy before you married him and "hoped" that he would mature, or you didn't spend enough time getting to know him.

Unfortunately I don't see that you have a lot of choices here.
When you choose to marry a boy, you can't get mad at him when it turns out that he is a boy and not a man.

Answer 8

That's pretty rude of him. I suggest u take up a job n leave him to himself. take ur child with u n take care of her on ur own. Wen he is hungry n ur not ther, he will find time to cook n wen he starts to stink, he will find time for cleaning too. Wen the bills pile up n the authorities cut off everything, he will also find time to think of wat to do to get all thse back. Dnt weaken ur heart to leave him. Do it thinking of ur child. If he comes back for u, then tell him to 4get the computer otherwise, no family...

Answer 9

you can do anything you want.. and of course there maybe hope or maybe not. a good answer requires lots more informations. not that simple. no doubt 2 years are way too long i hope it is not too late. you need to take action ... open up to him and talk. tell him internet must stop or else... if you want to talk e-mail me . will do my best

Answer 10

Hmmm. I think the quickest way to manage this is to sit with him, bring the baby to sit with you. Dont do anything....you worked all day while he was at work? right? Ok, you sit, you relax with him, read stories to your baby and say sweet things to daddy...have baby, mommy and daddy altogether! ;) A few weeks of this and he may get the hint. hehe

Answer 11

cook only for you and your daughter, and when he comes home, tell him to make it for himself..wash you and your daughters clothes, let him wash his own crap...keep the lights on, but let those bills pile up for a week....maybe he'll get the message...Or go to your mom's if you can, and stay there till he gets the message....you have had enough....