my boy friend is always saying complaints that i am not loving him... listen guys i used to talk to him everyday very sweet, calling so many lovely nick names, giving kisses through phone( we live far away), writing vast emails everyday, buying gifts for him, caring so much like had ur dinner why are u late my baby.. showing my love as much as i can, when we are alone we give kisses including french kiss or anything that he wants me to do.. i am not against anything.. but he want me to be a show off person infront of the public, he want me to give kisses and hugs infront of every guys, i am from india we are not supposed to do this things infront of public, its immoral and people will see us as bad. i like to show my love to him when we are alone, when ever i feel privacy, i will kiss him sure in public places if there isnt anyone over there so i mean i need privacy. i dont fight to him, even though he fight i make compromises , i dont say a word against him,he is not understanding me
2006-10-10 20:10:02 · 4 answers · asked by ann m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i love him very much, he just want a show off love in the theatre, road , in the cab like that.. how i am supposed to do that when i am brought in this culture, he is also from my culture, but now he is in US, may be he is trying adopt their culture and if he say he wants to do all this in india wht will be the situation, police will arrest for immoral traffic if we do french kiss and sex in public.. we are not supposed to do this.. he know this very well coz he was also born and brought up in india but now working in usa
2006-10-10 20:12:53 · update #1
sounds to me like he's a little insecure. just sit him down and talk to him. tell him that you're not comfortable with the whole public display of affection. try to comprimise with him though... maybe... hold his hand in public. the way you said he wants you to kiss him infront of every guy you pass, makes it seem like he just wants everyone to know that you are with him. so, so with the lesser public affections, like holding hands, or putting your arms through his, maybe even letting him put his arm around your waste, or your arm around his.
i'm sorry i cant be more help, like i said... just talk to him.
2006-10-10 20:20:42 · answer #1 · answered by evil_bitch_with_attitude 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you don't need to HUG and KISS him every minute. Maybe he's insecure. It's o.k. to show affection in public. Look around and see what and how other couples treat each other. They hold hands, walk closely together, hug each other at times, even kiss sometimes, but not every waking moment.
2006-10-10 20:16:36 · answer #2 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain your concerns to him and tell him about the seriousness of it. You should NOT compromise your culture/upbringing by that much for him. If he refuses to act appropriately then you must leave him. There are many other great guys out there for you.
2006-10-10 20:16:41 · answer #3 · answered by Greg M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ahh men,their more difficult to understand then us sometimes!!! Try talking to him,asking whats really bothering him..thats the only way to really find out.
2006-10-10 20:14:01 · answer #4 · answered by yahooaddict 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋