Ever since i move away i haven't had friends like i had when i was in high school.It seems that everyone i meet these days is so wraped up in themselves that they just can't even fathom thinking of someone else.I hope it's not me that's the problem.I think i'm a good firend, i listen, i give fairly good advice, and i'm honest.So what does it take to make some true blue female friends?or just friends in general?Man i'm lonely!
2006-10-10 19:48:48 · 11 answers · asked by flexduty 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
have you tried to make friends with any guys? i know the majority of my friends are guys and i tend to make friends easier with guys too. not sure why that is but just how it goes, i do have those girl friends too, just not as many. just put yourself out there and you will be noticed and make friends...GOOD LUCK
2006-10-10 19:51:45 · answer #1 · answered by pumba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Female friends are hard to find especially if you are a bit “gifted” with looks and intelligence. It’s basically female instinct of being jealous and insecure for what other female having, scared of being compared, and the pride for not exerting effort to introduce themselves first personally to other females.
If you are single and young but lonely and bored, do something else like playing with the kids in the neighbouhood and meeting their mommies. Through that you will learn alot of things about life from their own experiences.
2006-10-11 03:27:25 · answer #2 · answered by Roszi Love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This question is for me! Why? Because it's the same one I used to ask myself over and over and over after I moved away from where I graduated and all my longtime highschool friends. I feel you, girl...SO LOUD and CLEAR!! And I hurt where you hurt...which is the lonliness in your heart. So...first of all, the easiest place to make friends is in school....it's naturally friend-friendly. After you graduate, however, it generally gets harder and harder to find friends with which you have some kind of common ground to bond with. And, you are right in saying that people are so wrapped up in themselves and their world that they don't even give you the time of day. It's an ugly, selfish picture, isn't it? Makes you feel as if something is wrong with YOU...huh? NO, HONEY!!! NOTHING is wrong with YOU!! But EVERYTHING is wrong with the world today! And some girls out there are DEFINITELY missing out on the wonderful opportunity of a friendship with you! It's THEIR sad loss! Meanwhile, back on the farm, you are STILL lonely and searching for that one true girlfriend....right? She's out there somewhere you're thinking, so you're holding out hope that you'll find her. So in looking, you are SO eager to find her that you are willing to go overboard--way, WAY too overboard, probably...and thereby scare off your prospects. Good Lord! I myself am guilty of this! Hell, I would clean a woman's house from top to bottom just to get her to be my friend....only to be used and used.
Women are THE hardest mother-frucking people IN THE WORLD to be friends with! We are bitchy, moody and competitive and a total piece of work! Just don't give up...it's when you are NOT looking for one, that you find one. So lighten up...it'll happen! HAVE FAITH
2006-10-11 03:14:54 · answer #3 · answered by crazynays 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe its because women tend to first judge another woman by the way they look. Many women I work with seem to think they are all too cute to make friends.
When I make a friend I only conversate with them and be watchful at first because many people just want to use you for something they want.
Or either that you are just giving off negative vibes.
2006-10-11 03:02:24 · answer #4 · answered by arlawallyr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean. Every woman that I have ever considered a friend, has always back-stabbed me in one way or another. Its hard to find people that actually care about anything else but themselves.
I still keep trying to find some sort of decency in people, but have given up trying to make friends. My advice to you would be to do the same. If you show people you care, they'll look at you as weak, and use it to their advantage.
2006-10-11 02:58:11 · answer #5 · answered by penelope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i assume you are a guy, based on that assumption, the only reason why its difficult for you to make female friends is that your handsome, goodlooking and smart and they feel that you are a guy to be dated than to have as a friend. Well that may be partly true but i'm just kidding.
The life in today's world is so fast that time just flies by and people hardly get time for themselves and their daily activities. Girls in general consider having guys as friends as a waste of time and feeling of insecurity develops. This may not appeal to you but this is my idea.
2006-10-11 03:11:48 · answer #6 · answered by Cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SHARING... sharing is the best way to make n keep friends. Share all u have every day with people around u n u will be remembered all the time. Help others n they will think of u n this way, u will make more n more friends. Good luck
2006-10-11 03:01:30 · answer #7 · answered by Lovlyn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's not difficult at all... give yourself and other people some time. sometimes, when you are new somewhere, this can happen. be yourself, have fun on your own, do what you like, friendships will happen :)
2006-10-11 02:51:14 · answer #8 · answered by publically_private 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because other women consider you as 'competition'.
2006-10-11 05:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh join something like a sport, club ect.
2006-10-11 02:50:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋