my lover is always compalning that i am not loving him, i know how much i am showing my love to him, i talk very sweet and soft to him, even though he get angry i wont shout at him wont say anything bad, i will talk to him everyday through phone( we live far away), but he is saying u dont have love, he want me to show his love infront of others i mean in public places in streets , i am not show off like that, i always show how i love him yes infront of everyone or infront of strangers or in public i wont give frecnch kiss and all. when we are alone, we i have privacy i do eevrything.... i never want to be a show off person showing every people that how i am loving him so i dont do such thing in public places.. i am living in india, its not an european culture to hug and kiss in the road, our culture is different than any other countries.. why doesnt he understand me that how i am loving him, i am sending emails everday like vast novels, calling him everyday, giving gift when he is near
2006-10-10 19:37:51 · 14 answers · asked by ann m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i behave very good to him and his friends, very friendly but he is saying i dont love him, i am desp dont know why he is like this.. wht i have to do my friends....
2006-10-10 19:39:14 · update #1
when we are alone we kiss each other and i care him a lot , infront of everyone i am not show off person to expose my love. am i wrong.. bbut its in india how i am gonna show this in the public places..
2006-10-10 19:40:56 · update #2
Tell him to hit the road and find a new man...
2006-10-10 19:41:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is more than affection. He wants you to display your affection in public which is against your culture. Have you considered the nature of his love for you? It sounds like you are trying so hard to convince him that you love him, that you are not considering his behavior towards you.
He is your lover. What if you marry? Would he still want you to continue the displays of public affection? Is it just anonymous displays of public affection? Would he be French kissing you in front of your family? Would he be French kissing you in front of his family?
Will this man be a good husband? In India you may follow the tradition of your family choosing a husband. Would your family choose this man? Why or why not?
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2006-10-10 22:45:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Long distance relationships (i've been there) and trans-culture issues will always cause some strain on a relationship. If he does not know anything about or has never been to another culture, then it will be difficult for him to understand differences of other cultures.
However, regardless of distance, race or culture, he needs to respect you and your feelings. Love is accepting others in all ways. Maybe you give him too much. (not necessarily your fault though) I understand that you want to show him your love, but you need to show him your love for yourself and that you are not an item to be taken for granted.
2006-10-10 19:47:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said you live far away.It sounds to me like he is insecure about your relationship.Or maybe he just misses you,and doesn't feel that you miss him.In your whole question you never said you asked him why he feels like that.
You should start there,and ask him why he feels that way.If you want this relationship to work you both must compromise,instead of arguing.
A relationship is hard work,you not only have to know yourself,but the one your with.If he can't compromise ,and you can't compromise then why be together.You won't be happy,and you will fight constantly.Is it really such a bad thing to show others your with that person,and your proud enough to let others know.
Here's another point of view,maybe he thinks your embarrassed to be seen with him as a couple.
Hope you work it out,and good luck.
2006-10-10 20:14:12 · answer #4 · answered by seandebra17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm. You shouldnt give in to such a thing.
Does he show you affection in public? Some places its not proper and makes other people uncomfortable and cast bad glances. Tell your guy that you feel the negative glances at you and it makes you feel very bad to do that in public. He really should be more understanding!!
2006-10-10 19:47:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's not supposed to tell you just how you are to love him. For as long as you know in your heart that you do, its okay. You need not exert anymore effort on that. He's supposed to understand your culture if he does love you. Why don't you throw him back his premise? If he does love you he wouldn't be so demanding and accusing on things that you are not. I live in the Philippines and we also have this conservative culture. He's supposed to love you for all that you are and not change you into what he wants you to be. Be firm, Girl!
2006-10-10 19:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by beatrice 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should spend more time with him in privacy and less in public.
Check you culture and his, and balance in the middle.
Do not thow yourself on him, or any one else. Keep some self respect and pride.
Make sure he is not using reverse psychology on you, means not loving you, while blaming you for not loving him.
Generally, if you were intimate with someone in privacy, they will not be insecure about love thereafter.
2006-10-10 20:00:51 · answer #7 · answered by SS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is uncommon, yet perhaps he believes that a masty is only an outlet till the 'genuine deal' comes alongside. some adult males see it as a lots poorer cousin of intercourse, and that in case you w*nk it is b.c you are able to not get a gf. while maximum adult males, their penis is only approximately their previous flame affair.
2016-10-19 04:45:31 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't lower your standards or morals for a man. If he can't accept you for who you are HOW you are, then you don't need him. If you really love him and are willing to do what it takes to make him happy, ask him what it is specifically that he wants you to do to show him that you love him.
2006-10-10 19:48:01 · answer #9 · answered by ladystarrchild107 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There's something wrong with him nt you. Just be wat you are and do wat u think is right. Am from Mauritius & it's nt diff from India. Infact Mtius is known as little India, so far i understand wat u mean abt culture. Don't let him disrespect you like that. Kissing on the road doesn't mean that you love him, infact you will be losing respect bef others. I think he wants to show off.
2006-10-10 20:06:50 · answer #10 · answered by Saphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋