I give him Oral, and he won't give me the same in return, but....?

Question

I give my boyfriend oral, and he and I both enjoy it very much, but he won't give me oral. I don't know why. We never really discuss it because I don't even think about it. I don't miss it. I love intercourse, and giving him oral, and I have no problem never getting oral for myself. In fact, just the fact that he doesn't voluntarily give me the same, makes me NOT want it. If I had to ask him for it, then I would feel like he really didn't want to do it, but is just doing it to get "the chore" over with. I would not want that! I am very clean. Should I ask him if he has gone down on other women in the past, and if its just me that he won't do this, too? Or, should i just leave well enough, alone, since I am fine with what I have?

Answer 1

I say don't play games if you want the act reciprocated let it be know. Also don't do it just because you want it in return. For years my husband went down on me and I didn't return the favor (not because I didn't want to but because I thought that I wasn't good at). I finally decided to give it a try and he loved it. But it wasn't until after we discussed it that I realized that I should have told him of my concerns earlier. Talk to him and ask him why he doesn't reciprocate.

Answer 2

I think its an issue to be discussed. It fine if you tell him you don't miss it, but if there is some other perhaps psychological reason it should be brought to the surface..........I could never live without it! Boy I could go on about the possibilities but it would take a lot of time, just talk to him.......ask him what he doesn't like.......it might be something simple like a hair issue, easily remedied with a shaver......or, there could be a taste issue, or it could be that the thought of going down on someone when he has come inside her is not appealing........which is a hang up in itself.

Honestly, its usually chicks that refuse to give head and expect to get oral anyway.........I would be like no, tit for tat or I am going somewhere else.....I have discussed this with guys and I think they are nuts, I don't care how much they like giving oral if she isn't doing it in return I think they are justified in lick, spit, lick spit.....bet that would get their attention!

Answer 3

sometimes this kind of thing in a relationship should somehow be discussed. Because a miscommunication might be happening right now. He too could be tinking that you might not want it or is not comfortable with it that is why he doesnt give it to you... while you on the other hand kept having questions why???
talk to your man...maybe when you're doing the act...ask for it or just lead him down there... nothing wrong with that...so you'll both know how you'd react.. maybe then you'd like it too... Prepare yourself though... you'd want to be clean, fresh and ready for that.. Goodluck!

Answer 4

If you had no problem with it, you wouldn't be writing to us, now, would you? I think you DO want him to go down on you. And to be honest, if I was in the same position as you, I would be offended that he hasn't done it. I would definitely be asking about it, and dropping some MAJOR hints that it's REALLY easy to make a woman come using oral. Good luck. A man who won't do that for you is not a keeper, me thinks.

Answer 5

That happened to me. I give oral and my bf wouldn't do it for me. the reason he wouldn't do it is because he's scared that he might not like it or he might be discussed by it. I'm a clean girl and he's clean as well. it depends if your bf wants to or not. Everyone has their likes and dislikes. Dont' be shy to ask. He's your bf, both of you should be open with eachother and don't keep anything from eachother.

Answer 6

Doesn't sound like your alright with it. Seems as if its bothering you something fierce.
You should go ahead and ask him everything that your wondering about. To think that you are not shy about the act, but too shy to ask for something in return, well thats just too funny.
He might just be thinking that you don't like to get eaten. The guy has got it made. I know that if a man wanted to do me and never asked for anything in return, I would be more than happy to oblige.

Answer 7

It doesn't sound like you are okay with things the way they are ( no oral for you) since you are asking this question. If you really didn't care you wouldn't be thinking twice about it. Right?

Answer 8

Try this, dont ask him just tell him to lay down in the bed and place yourself on top of his face. I know this sounds weird, but sometimes we want a woman to take some charge. About the cleanliness...Good we like that. It would also help if you keep it trim down there. He just sounds like he needs to be told what to do. You don't have to feel like he might not want to. If he really cares about you he will want to fullfill your every need. Do not leave your needs aside.

Answer 9

Ask him if you want to do this. Don't ask him if you don't want it. Besides giving oral to men and women is a very unhygeinic practice, no matter how clean you are. Why would you want to lick someone at the place where their urine comes out from?

Answer 10

Your partner is selfish as a lover.
He should be wanting to return the favor,because it makes you feel better.And he should want all of you.
Also sounds like he's a prude,sorry.But to me that's what it sounds like.If it doesn't turn him on to do that,then he's a prude.

Why don't you take charge , guys like that,i know i don't mind.Tell him to get down there,and please you.Just make sure your clean.

Also try using foods or liquids for him to lick off,make a game out of it.Make it exciting and fun for both.

Hope this helps,good luck