Looking back on grade school years when a girl liked me I was flattered but scared to death. I stayed away Y?

Answer 1

Being 'scared to death', may have been a reaction to a feeling or feelings about the opposite sex that were foreign to you. If you were immature and the emotion was too overwhelming, it would be a natural response to avoid the person and the feelings that they evoked.
If your self-esteem and confidence in yourself was limited, you may have had a difficult time accepting that you were worthy of attention. If you felt that you were inferior to others, it may have been difficult to understand why this person viewed you in a positive manner. You may have felt that if you did become friends with this individual, they may have found out that you were less than worthy of their attention thus verifying your fears. When you do like someone, you have a vested interest and therefore any rejection would be more difficult to handle.
If you became close to this girl, I believe that you feared that she may become aware of the 'real' you. The one that you took great pains to hide. As children, we are very protective of our weaknesses because we do not want to risk ridicule. You may have felt more flawed than you really were because of your lack of self-esteem.

Answer 2

Hell, I am still scared of even having contact with someone that I surmise might like me- and I am not in grade school anymore. Why?

- I am scared to reject them and possibly break their relationship that I have with them or creates unnecessary friction between us (if you know her). I am also scared of appearing too-hard-to-impress and snobbish. Why? I care too much about other people's opinion which is not the best thing to care about. This reason goes hand in hand with the second point.

- I am scared of other people gossiping about me which inadvertently causes me to blush and cause them to tease me about it. I am also not known to 'keep it cool' in times like these and I would usually overreact, which provokes more teasing and thus aggravates my fear of gossip. Why am I so scared of overreacting and not being able to 'keep it cool'? Because I am irrational and I fear what I fear on the first point. But, I have some rational arguments to squash this unreasonable fear: If I blush when someone teases me about someone who likes me, then I am sure MANY MORE people blush when they are teased the same thing. In addition, gossip dies eventually. This is of course, what I tell myself. I am not sure that it's working...

- I would not know what to do in an exclusive boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. Say you accept the girl and you both became boyfriend and girlfriend. What do you do if you're in your first relationship? Is it that much different than normal friendship? Are you expected to kiss her? Or just hold hands? You were probably scared of this.

The short answer is because you were scared of numerous things. Who wouldn't be? Hopefully you have the courage to face your fear, unlike me. :P

Answer 3

I was the same way. I call myself a late bloomer. I didn't date that much when I was younger.

My biggest problem was I didn't like rejection. Once I'd been turned down a time or two, I sorta gave up. I had no self-confidence. When I got a little older and got some confidence, it was much easier.

Answer 4

You were in grade school...a child. Give yourself a break.