on a bad note? Most of the time, when some one wants out of a relationship they wait for a bad situation to occur before ending it. Why wait for that? If they know it is not going to work, just tell them. The other may still get upset, but it doesn't really have to be on bad terms. Or am I just nutts for believing this way? So many question I know........
2006-10-10 18:54:01 · 16 answers · asked by lifescircle 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no you arent nuts, I feel the same way and my husband is considering divorce, I still love my husband and will only remember all the good things about our relationship, and we have two beautiful children together, he will always have a place in my heart, Despite the fact that he isnt happy in our marriage we both agreed if we split that we will still be good friends, after all I consider him my best friend, I just wish this didnt have to end, I will never understand him or his reasoning, and I think hes a fool for loosing what we have to go after a life that he doesnt even know if he will be happy with.
:( all better now thanks for letting me share
2006-10-10 19:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by beautifullybroken 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They're either scared of the reaction of the other person. They fear confrontation.
Or... They don't want to hurt the other person's feelings too deeply. Believe it or not, some people think their mate or lover would kill themselves if they got dumped.
Or... They don't know how to put into NICE WORDS, "I don't want to be with you anymore."
There may be other reasons, but these seem to be the most common.
Arguing is the easy way out because they are hoping that the person will end the relationship or give them a good excuse to end the relationship.
Brother DzL (AsP)
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2006-10-11 02:02:38 · answer #2 · answered by mo2dajizzo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You make a very good point. Things end poorly because it's very hard to just call it quits. A lot of guilt comes with that, and reacting to a bad argument is a 'way out' of feeling guilty. The truth that the relationship is bad can be staring you in the face, but acting on it is tough. I know a few who have just peacefully separated, but they were very mature.
2006-10-11 01:58:06 · answer #3 · answered by Arnold M 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It does seem to happen that way but it usually because the person ending it has been looking for an out. It is a chicken hearted way to exit a relationship. I personally think it is usually the lazier of the two who wants out because they can't be bothered to stay around and fix it, other than infidelity, I think all things are fixable.
2006-10-11 02:00:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I have been married for 20 years and are now divorceing. We are best friends but living together we will probably kill each other. We still intend on seeing each other as friends after the divorce is final and even plan to take a cruise in a few months together. It does not have to be nasty. That is a choice.
2006-10-11 01:58:03 · answer #5 · answered by jusme 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
They end because people do everything before marriage...have sex, have babies and then expect the other person to stick around! There's no commitment is an unmarried relationship so no wonder people walk out on each other so easily!
2006-10-11 02:09:49 · answer #6 · answered by DrSH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If we were ending a relationship just for the sake of ending and for no other reasons, then we wouldn't have to make excuses or find faults,
Only when it is done for secondary reasons, is when we make excuses and find faults, because of the guilt involved.
2006-10-11 02:06:15 · answer #7 · answered by SS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Relationship get sour when one party betray the other. It is because lack of commitment on their relationship. Either one of them take life easy, no reponsibility and don't want any headache i.e. Happy Go Lucky.
2006-10-11 02:02:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that this can only happen if it's what both parties want, however if one of the couple doesn't want to separate then their sadness can be displayed in many ways, such as anger.
2006-10-11 02:03:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
when a marrage cant be saved why go on living together and ruin the rest of your life is to short to worry over things like this make a new life with another . my opion?
2006-10-11 02:02:47 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋