I met this girl a month ago - and we really hit it off. Things got very intimate but I didn't see her again untill quite recently. We did talk on the phone every now and again and everything seemed fine. We finally got together and had another intimate moment (her and her bf were on a break or something). Now I realize, she only invited me over to piss off her new boyfriend and get dirt on him, as he's one of my friends. I totally have feelings for her but now that I know she was just using me, I am totally hurt. What do I do?
2006-10-10 17:50:40 · 22 answers · asked by Nehyers 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I have to add, I am in my experimental stage. I was with a guy for two years untill a couple months ago. I really enjoyed this girl's company though.
2006-10-10 17:59:41 · update #1
the only thing u can and NEED to do is pull every single one of ur muscles together and get over her, now that is 2000 times harder than it sounds thats why u need every single one of em. trust me it'll be good for u, i was used, i was hurt, now i know how it feels like and because of that i would NEVER do that to anyone no matter how much i hate them or how much i wanna use them for my own good and you should do the same, if this didnt help u then let it be some help to others...and as for your self, plz dont give up on love...stuff like this is just fu*cked up, let it be weight training for your heart, it hurts but its making u alot stronger, more than you know...i've been there, i really really wish u the best of luck and when u are hurting again just think of tomorrow and look back on today and laugh.
2006-10-10 17:58:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
i haven't been through this at all.
but if i were in your place, i'd laugh it off.
that girl's nothing to begin with.
so, get up & scrape the dirt off your knees.
you'll find someone better, whether that be a guy or a girl, since you're still in the experimental stage.
just look at this as a learning experience.
there's definitely a lot out there to learn.
even for us who've gone past the experimental stage already.
things will get better, you'll see.
\m/
2006-10-10 18:07:58 · answer #2 · answered by - iceman - 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hi Neh
I'm straight myself, but I have heard some girls say that they will get intimate with a lesbian or bi girl, just so they know what it's like.......and never mind if the other party has or develops feelings for them. I guess this could have happened to you as well, which is just another way of being used - I certainly hope not....us girls are a nasty bunch sometimes aren't we.
2006-10-10 17:54:16 · answer #3 · answered by LadyRebecca 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry that happened to you. Some people have no character and you won't always know it until its too late.
Make sure you never talk to her again, don't make any drama, just move on with your life. If her b/f is your friend, you will need to distance yourself from him too. If he notices, tell him the truth. that she came onto you and took advantage of the situation just to get back at someone else and you don't associate with those kinds of people. Or if that's not something you can say, just say she turned out to be someone you don't want to be around. End of story.
There are better people to know, move on and and don't look back.
2006-10-11 02:09:10 · answer #4 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be keying the word "*****" into her car and otherwise doing like Carrie Underwood in her new song! I'm not very nice when I'm taken advantage of. I hope you're much nicer than I am...but have the spine to drop her entirely, let her know why if she asks in no uncertain terms, and move the hell on.
2006-10-10 18:03:06 · answer #5 · answered by GreenEyedLilo 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's not wise to get too comfortable with someone who used you! they would probably do it again, unfortunately.
You had feelings for her, but the feelings come from inside of you. I challenge you to move on and believe in something better. Nicer girls are waiting for you!
2006-10-10 18:32:29 · answer #6 · answered by Cub6265 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just write her off as a a bad one keep looking for a nice girl to hookup with and or be friends with.
2006-10-10 18:30:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like sadly, that you're going to have your heart broken by this girl, I think you should move on sweetie, there are a lot of nice girls out there okay.
2006-10-10 18:12:31 · answer #8 · answered by Grazia 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Walk away. Try to learn something from every experience in life.
2006-10-10 17:53:44 · answer #9 · answered by wendygirl1000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
confront her about it...tell her how u feel about her and that she hurt you if she blows u off again **** her shes not worth it and there are better girls out ther for u to find adn hook up with
2006-10-11 13:04:28 · answer #10 · answered by bibaby15 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋