I am thinking of him out of suddens, remembering times together, hoping to see him around. What am i to do? The more i think of him the more i m missing him.
2006-10-10 17:48:58 · 22 answers · asked by Meli 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Have you been married long? If not you may just be missing your freedom. This should pass once you get settled deeply into your marriage.
If you've been married for a while & this has just started happening you may need to think about whether or not marriage is right for you because it's not fair to your husband.
2006-10-10 17:54:04 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you? Why did you get married in the first place? Why aren't you married to the guy you are fantasizing about? These are questions you should have already asked yourself. I would have hoped that you asked these questions before you got married. Too many times people get married for the wrong reasons, such as not wanting to be alone in their life. This is why 49% of marriages end in divorce. Try answering these questions now, if you haven't. Also remeber the other person involved in this mess you created, your husband. There has to be as many good times with him as there was with your exboyfriend. I also hope you don't have any kids.
2006-10-10 17:54:24 · answer #2 · answered by DLUVDAIMPERIAL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is an EX for a reason right? Maybe... just maybe you should give into that urge to see him. Sometimes we like to live in our own fantasies of the good things we think we could have and forget the downfalls. Maybe being around him will show you that you shouldn't really be married anyway ... Being married is supposed to be a lifelong commitment.....or maybe you'll see that he should stay an ex... but you're just thinking of someone else cause you need to spice up your marriage a little.
2006-10-10 17:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to forget him. That won't work.
Concentrate on loving the man you are committed to. It's all right to have feelings for your ex. That's human. Don't feel guilty about it. You aren't messing around.
But don't let it get to the point where you miss him so much he's interfering with your marriage. You married your husband for a set of good reasons. Concentrate on those reasons.
2006-10-10 17:51:50 · answer #4 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You usually think about ex's when things go bad in a relationship,you think the grass is always greener elsewhere. Yet if you really love your man do something nice for him surprise him with a nice meal and some sexy lingerie ,have a great night and you'll forget about the ex again.
2006-10-10 17:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
another confused, screwed up person sapping the soul of an innocent man. Think to yourself, is he thinking about me the same way? Probably not. He's probably having the time of his life with someone a little more secure in who they are and is faithful to boot. You don't deserve the man you've got. i hope you do something stupid, like follow through with your idiotic fantasy and lose him, so he too can find someone worthy, just like your ex-boyfriend did. When your old, lonely and bitter and you wake up one morning and realize you only have yourself to blame for the stupidity in your life then it will be to late. Get a clue.
2006-10-10 17:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like disappointing sex with the new husband. Well maybe not sex, but something stimulates you while thinking of the ex. Somehow you better figure out away to let your husband know that he ain't cutting the mustard.
You may need something done to the old married guy to make you think he is hotter.
2006-10-10 17:53:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember why he is your ex and why your husband is your husband. The grass is always greener on the other side. Give up on the fantasies and live in reality or you will be on here not to long from now asking how to get your marriage back.
2006-10-10 17:51:35 · answer #8 · answered by It's Been Cool 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it sounds like to me you married the wrong person...are these feelings of lust or are you still in love with him..Maybe you should talk to him in an open environment like a mall or restaurant and see where you two stand..He may have moved on which would be a plus for you and then you can move on as well.
2006-10-10 17:51:28 · answer #9 · answered by chubbie dumplins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
R u angry or not happy with yr husband and u didn't said it out, u keep all in your heart. Am i right? Let said I'm right, when u angry with A u will think B, when B make u angry or do things u don't like den u will think actually A is nice husband. So ask yourself wat yr mind thinking abt ask your heart how much things had keep inside.... talk to yr husband how u feel.
I oso have same thing like you i love my husband very much but just thing not going well and auto will thing my ex-bf and ask y my ex-bf can do it and husband can't..
2006-10-10 21:01:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋