2006-10-10 17:47:04 · 17 answers · asked by bunu 2 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Well the truth is there was never a single case of love failure !
The failure is of expectation, and desires !
Take the worst case scenario where even a suicide is attempted ..... the person has experienced failure of his desire to be loved. And out of more love for his desire, he sacrificed his purpose of living ! He happened to love is desire more than anything else, and it succeeded !
When a person becomes truly loving, with love as that person's personal quality, NOT DEPENDENT ON ANY OUTSIDE SITUATION, then all these failure possibilities are minimised. Atleast, there is no failure for the person himself/herself !
No body has absolute control over any situation, and even acceptance of this truth from within releases a person from desires and expectations, though does not prevent the person from setting a goal and working towards it.
Good luck !
2006-10-11 05:32:14 · answer #1 · answered by Spiritualseeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really doubt that you are a love failure. You just haven't found the right person yet.
Love is when you know you can tell your partner anything and they will still love you just as much. Never holding anything against you. They are your safe harbor. You share everything and talk about everything. Your partner is your best friend. The world just disappears when you are together. You almost know what the other is going to say before saying it. You can bare your soul to them without fear. Laughter happens frequently. Sometimes just because you love what they just did. No matter how small. You can't say I love you enough to make them understand the depth of your feelings. And they never tire of hearing it. Or returning it. I could go on and on, but I won't. Oh, one more thing...you never put each other down. Lots of praise and positive talk. No room for negative.
2006-10-11 01:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by Living the Alaskan life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, me too!
But it's really a lot more than THAT. It's taken me a long time to realize that it's all around me, all the time, and definitely not something to be captured. I didn't find out about this until I finally gave up on trying to find it in my 'dream come true' woman. But that's just one person's experience. In my case i thought there was something wrong with me that I should try to overcome, so giving up wasn't like a defeat, as much as it was a liberation from that nagging voice.
The meaning? To me it means that there is a spiritual nature, as important as a physical nature. They are two sides of the same coin, and the coin is life.
2006-10-11 01:19:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love in itself is not about someone else. It is about your state of mind. When two people are in love, they care, they give, they emotionally support one another, they do not judge, they are best Friends always first.
Add romance to a caring supportive re;relationship, you get romantic love.
Infatuation is when you cannot stop thinking about someone so much that you lose yourself and what you are interested in, your friends, etc. The infatuated person destroys him or herself in the process.
Chemistry is important, but if you are infatuated with someone, and they are bad to you, they start looking worse and worse. Sex is not love. It's a way to reproduce the species. However, If you have authentic love and are best friends, and add a romantic side to it, even if not fireworks, there is real love and it will sustain.
Read; Howe to Be Your Own Best Friend. Then apply it to yourself, and then to another besides yourself.Also watch the movie When Harry Met Sally. Watch Forrest gump, who truly understood the meaning of love and commitment.
2006-10-11 00:55:46 · answer #4 · answered by Legandivori 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a "Love Failure" . You are only a "Resolve failure" , unable to resolve the question as to what is Love and what is not.
Real love stands on four pillars. Love, trust, respect and Intimacy. All the four are needed for all of us to truly experience Love and companionship . If there is a failure in the relationship one or more of these missing.
You can analyse yourself why your Love seem to have failed. Yiou will be amazed to find which element is missing. Perhaps your companion didnot give you the respect you wanted him to. Perhaps he/she had no trust in you. But he /she may have abundant intimacy. No. It does not jel that way.You didnot fail. He /she did not come upto your expectation. That is all.
2006-10-11 06:47:06 · answer #5 · answered by YD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"LOVE IS WHEN YOU WANT THE OTHER PERSON TO BE MORE HAPPY THAN YOU"
hi binu,this what i think love is.from ur question i dont understand if u have never been in love or if u were in love and the relationship could not go ahead.if it is the first case dont worry.you will soon find the love of ur life.dont wait for love .it will come on its own.dont wait for love ,infact spread love around to ur family and friends.love is something this world desperately needs.if u love everyone around u,u too will be loved by that special someone sooner or later.
2006-10-11 03:35:16 · answer #6 · answered by Survive_each_Session 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is a choice. A choice to forgive EVERYTHING someone does. A choice to share EVERYTHING with someone. A choice to be dependable for and when necessary dependent upon someone FOREVER. Love requires trust over fear, confidence over low self esteem, honesty over easy lies, openness over covertness, and most of all TIME. In order to determine whether you will be able to truly love someone your whole life you need to take the time to get to the point where you can be open, honest, trusted, etc and actually get to know the person. It also depends on your own ability to let yourself be vulnerable to another person's feelings toward you and who you are, what you do, etc. If you think you're perfect, its hard for people to love you and be open and honest with you.......
If you need more let me know...
2006-10-11 10:58:09 · answer #7 · answered by deep bass 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pure love means giving without taking any pride in the giving. Therefore there is no question of failure where there is pure love.
But of course there is nothing so pure in this world.
The kind of love you refer to is where you want to win the heart of a particular person of the opposite sex, right? The best way is to please and praise that person, openly, on the face, without any qualms or hesitation. You'll not fail.
2006-10-11 01:02:11 · answer #8 · answered by small 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All of these answers are great--love is kind, good, etc., etc. Okay, want a more practical answer? Check out Robert Sternberg's triangular theory of love...very interesting and very informative. Check out the following websites if you're interested:
http://www.cofc.edu/~langleyt/217triangulartheoryoflove.html
http://www.psy.pdx.edu/PsiCafe/Overheads/TriangularLove.htm
2006-10-11 03:50:05 · answer #9 · answered by james 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the old saying, love means never having to say you're sorry, meaning you would never do anything to harm the one you love so there would never be any reason to apologize. True love means putting someone else first, unless their desires are detrimental to themselves or the relationship. It's wanting to be with that person forever and forsaking all others. It's being truthful and honest. It's giving and forgiving.
2006-10-11 00:54:38 · answer #10 · answered by julibooboo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋