I met this guy about a week or two ago... and we talked a lot in person... but not a lot on aim... (which is why i hate it).. I'm the one doing the talking and he's just like not doing anything. I only like him as a friend... or maybe... well, I mean he's attractive and all but I want to be his friend 'cause he seems really cool. But he doesnt say one word to me on aim... but like I said we talked a lot in person... is there a problem here? Any suggestions as to what I should talk to him about?
2006-10-10 17:44:44 · 11 answers · asked by Sarah . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
For real guys I ONLY want to be friends... like I said he's cute but I don't know... so say he's online right now... should I talk to him?
2006-10-10 17:53:53 · update #1
Be happy about his lack of interest in aim. He should be more concerned about you and your desire to carry on online relationships. You are the one who is out of touch with whats real. Start living in the now and save cyber chat for your fantasies or you will spend the rest of your life lonely and bitter
2006-10-10 17:48:53 · answer #1 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's not a big IMer. Some people talk a lot in person but not online. I have a good friend that I've known for years, and we still see each other every year even though I live over 600 miles away from her. We talk and have a good time when we're around each other, but she doesn't have much to say when I try to chat with her on AIM. I think that personal, face-to-face relationships should receive more attention than online ones, not that chatting isn't a good way to keep in touch. I just don't think it's always the best way to build relationships (or keep them strong, for that matter).
2006-10-11 00:52:48 · answer #2 · answered by rockdahouse85 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he doesn't know what to say. Maybe he's distracted by other things when you're trying to talk to him on aim. You like him more than a friend or you wouldn't be concerned enough about it to talk about it here. If aim is what is bothering you about him, try a different form of communication.
2006-10-11 00:49:11 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he just doesnt like talking on the internet. Id rather talk in person than on AIM.
2006-10-11 00:49:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys tend to not write as much on instant messenging programs. When I talk to my guy friends, they will write short answers unless they really have a story to tell. So dont take it personally---it is the way they act. They aren't as giddy-sensitive and wanting to type 100 words per minute as most girls do. =).
2006-10-11 00:48:30 · answer #5 · answered by suzanne g 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep on talking... Find out his interests and talk about that to get him to open up to you. If he doesn't open up then keep it where it is and just be friends. No physical stuff! Get to know who is on the inside of him and let him know the true you. Keep it simple.
2006-10-11 00:51:58 · answer #6 · answered by Preacher 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably shy and nervous. It just takes time to get to know someone. Go ahead and be yourself. He's observing and feeling out your personality. Lots of people observe before they choose to open up.
2006-10-11 00:51:39 · answer #7 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him about something he is interested he is probably best you dont date cause if he is sitting there bored while you talk then it means you are to diffferent. Talk to him about something like sports be like his best bud.
2006-10-11 00:49:33 · answer #8 · answered by babygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'll tell u something he thinks u talk alot ok and thats why he lets you he thinks by him listening to u he will get in ur pants. Hey thats me thinking
2006-10-11 00:50:53 · answer #9 · answered by HI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would say that all men are like that. So, don"t fret?
2006-10-12 00:38:47 · answer #10 · answered by blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋