Decided to take a quick shower to waken me up, (15 mins), left my boyfriend, or should i say now my ex boyfriend an offline message both on yahoo and msn. Called me around 8x on both my phones, and left me a message to never call him back. Is this absurd or what, the story does gets worse, due to his sick jelousy, he imagines voices talking to me, stalks my email, and asks me plenty of questions (who you with, who your talking to). Gets mad when I have lunch with a friend(female to add on), or even to go to any events, jelous over my younger brothers friends, and freaks out when I dont answer a call. Somebody please tell me why am I still clinging to this relationship?
2006-10-10 17:42:21 · 14 answers · asked by Mizz Know It All 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Maybe you are still clingy because you are insecure of yourself, or you simply don't want to be alone. I was in a relationship like this myself. It only gets worse girlfriend, believe me! Mine got abusive. Get out while you still can, and if possible, get a restraining order. Or a guy friend to kick his @$$
2006-10-10 18:01:06 · answer #1 · answered by Misty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going with this on face value of course, (with yahoo, ya get all kinds, so a bit of skepticism's always healthy) But if your situation's as stated, not only do you not deserve it, but you need to get protection from this guy. When we see something good, we naturally want to protect it. This is the basis of jealously. A certain amount is natural, but too much is a dangerous sickness. If he's hearing voices, there should be no question that it's a red flag. It may be that you're clinging because it's known, and therefore comfortable?(if that's the right word) There may be pleasure in being sought after, but he's changed pursuit for hunting. Remember, this is all based on the information presented, but that's how I picture what's going on. If it's even slightly accurate, I'd say Change address, and get a restraining order.
2006-10-11 02:42:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I watch Oprah when I get a chance and they had some women on there, that had very abusive husbands and being overly jealous,suspicious,and controlling were all first signs of an abusive relationship.Get out now..You don't want to live a life where every move you make must be controlled and explained,then it might turn physical when he doesn't like your answer.Get your phone numbers changed and consider getting a restraining order against him.
2006-10-11 00:52:34 · answer #3 · answered by Granny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that little over possessive bf will turn into an abusive live in partner/husband down the line....he is insecure and immature, and those traits produce abusers....you may already know the answer to your question, back off and tell him exactly why, before you become another victim.....over possessiveness and he is just a bf..?...little voice inside ya' telling you it's wrong?..listen to that little voice!!!
2006-10-11 00:48:39 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because his weird obsessive behavior makes you feel wanted in a strange way. Tell him that he needs to calm down because you are feeling uncomfortable. That type of behavior gets worse before it gets better.
2006-10-11 00:47:21 · answer #5 · answered by BabyGirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM SO SORRY YOU HAD TO PASS THRU SUCH A JERK. I CAN'T CUSS HERE.
YOU SHOULD BE MORE HAPPY THAT YOU LEFT SUCH A INMATURE DUMB GUY.
YOU PROBALLY FEEL LIKE THIS CAUSE BESIDES HIM BEING A CRY BABY, YOU LOVED HIM AND CARED FOR HIM!!!!
BUT HEY, THIS IS A NEW DAY AND YOUR FREE TO GO OUT AND HAVE LUNCH AND HE WILL CRY FOR YOU EVENTUALLY CAUSE YOU DID CARE FOR HIM ALOT.
I WISH YOU WELL AND THE VERY BEST ON YOU NEW RELATIONSHIP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-11 00:52:05 · answer #6 · answered by ALEX ROCKS 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey take it from me, if ur relationship is more than a month, he doesnt trust you leaving him hanging. u keep clinging on to him cuz u probably knew him for a long time
2006-10-11 00:46:30 · answer #7 · answered by j_matusalem 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We all do stupid things, hoping that something will change. It usually never does, so get out. You deserve better than that, and you know it! Don't waste your time waiting.
2006-10-11 00:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by lisa s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause you had hope...hope that he will change...but best thing for you is to run as far as you can, I hear so much jealousy can be harmful, he can really go crazy, and hurt you...give him up Dear...before it is too late...
2006-10-11 00:48:51 · answer #9 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't. he was just furious about your breakup that he wants to know exactly the things you are up to..talk to him and clarify things because if you ll let him be, its like he is controlling over you
2006-10-11 00:46:27 · answer #10 · answered by kakay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋