2006-10-10 17:31:25 · 12 answers · asked by Crill 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am SO, SO Sorry! I know, it is absolutely horrible, trust me! I know all too well. Isn't it frustrating that most people have no idea the level of pain you have and are experiencing. It's like they dismiss your pain by telling you to "just get over it," like that is possible, huh?
I see that people have told you that you will stop loving her eventually. This may be true for some people. All people are different, I guess. I know, I will never not love my exwife, and she hurt me as bad as anyone could ever hurt a spouse.
However, there is hope my friend. Although I do not believe time will make me forget the pain, quit loving, etc., and I assume you would agree, I know, and deep down you do too, that time will dull the senses, put the situation into a different perspective, will allow the experience to become a dominating chapter in the story of our lives, but it will no longer control who we are and, most importantly, will not define our future.
I wish you the best.
2006-10-10 18:45:36 · answer #1 · answered by Cing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think I understand your question. I have been divorced for almost 2 years now. We were married 15 years. I thought my heart would break in 2. He was my first love and I didn't even want to consider the fact that I may never love him again. But here I am 2 years later and it wasn't as hard as I thought it would be. I am not in love with him. I was in love with the idea of the marriage and the romantic love involved. Does life get better?
I recently moved to a new state, got my own apt. with my boys, and showed my ex that life does go on (I bought and drove a brand new car off the lot and then called him and told him!!!) I never had a brand new anything with him. I not only can do it but am doing it every day. Happiness is a journey, and if you enjoy every day of the ups and downs you will come out smiling. GL
2006-10-11 00:40:46 · answer #2 · answered by TotallylovesTodd! 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I think so, life definitely has to get better. The sun comes out everyday,and you also have the chance to think differently everyday. If you didn't get a divorce, you may not ever realize how much pain the marriage was giving you. Sometimes bad relationships can really take a heavy toll on you, and now that you are out, you can just simply breath. Everday go out for a walk, look at the trees, flowers, and go fishing, and learn to happy with yourself again.
2006-10-11 01:31:44 · answer #3 · answered by madaline 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At the time of the divorce and you were not the one that initiated the breaking up,of cause you are going to feel hurt and think you will never love another,
Its only normal to feel that way, in the beginning and for a long time to come. But eventually you will get over it, and in time you will move on.
To answer your question, yes it does eventually get better. But you have to help yourself get over it, by trying to get out and meet others, find new interests to fill that void. One day you will wake up and feel heaps better and wonder why you ask this question.
2006-10-11 00:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by tassie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that person has hurt u enough. though somewhre inside ur heart he will continue to live with for ever, but gradually over a period of time the sting eases out andu wont b distressed and later on when u find someone even nicer u will say ;thank god I divirced that undeserving character
2006-10-11 00:40:32 · answer #5 · answered by emily 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does. My father died 8 years ago, and my mom was still madly in love with him. She made a point of trying to keep life going and making new friends. She is doing great. Just keep telling yourself that it is easier to smile than to frown, and eventually the feeling will sink in.
2006-10-11 00:34:14 · answer #6 · answered by Esma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the state of your mind is completely in your power... you might not feel like that today but you can train the brain... your brain believes what you tell it, it can't discern between the truth and a lie... so what goes in is generally how you move into the future... you don't even need to particularly focus on exorcising the memory... by focusing on what you need to do to move forward, you will start to leave the pain behind... takes time... be patient with yourself... you have everything you need inside to take care of yourself in this time of need... nurse yourself through this and you will recuperate... stay put in the pain and it will put down roots that will be impossible to kill
good luck :)
2006-10-11 00:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by dornalune 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Never say NEVER, it doesn't exist in most cases...
but you'll find that out in time, Life goes on, you either stay on the back burner & slowly smolder, or you jump off the stove & get over getting burned!
2006-10-11 00:37:58 · answer #8 · answered by lizrdluvnmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care.That's not good. You may be on track for an emotional roller coaster.
2006-10-11 00:35:13 · answer #9 · answered by Bantree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suffering is a choice, forgetting is impossible.
2006-10-11 00:38:51 · answer #10 · answered by Goose Feet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋