I got married three years ago, quit my job, moved away from my home land within 2 months ( a decision we made), and got pregnant 2 months thereafter. While pregnant his sister and their family moved in which turned out to be a disaster (I still hate my sister in law). My son is now two and i take care of him and do the domestic stuff. My son would not go to bed without me and thus im unable to leave him with any one. My husband would come from work and help move 2 of of 10 things he left lying around and claims he helps around the house, which drives me insane. I do the pressure cleaning outside and assemble furniture (shelves, paint, wash car, gardening etc. ) cause cause he'll never move a finger. No matter how much i explain stuff to him he seems illiterate (he's had tertiary level education) and would call from work to ask y im always angry. At one time i wanted to talk now all i wanna do is scream! Im think im indifferent towards him.
2006-10-10 17:24:23 · 7 answers · asked by always angry 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
girl u r way to pressurizing urself...with child & house chores..u gotta stop asking ur husband for help...cause u say he wouldnt...can u fix someone to help u..some kinda of maid..for few chores?
more over u hav completely forgotten urself after ur family..its not too good..it will drive u crazy...& to a point where u will be just yelling around & yet get nothing done
u gotta tell ask ur husband to help with things which hes responsibile..if he mess up the hes the one cleaning else take al & dump it somewhere to be not found again..& when asked for it just say u dont know ...u mess up & u dont clean its gone...watch his reaction..& if he does scream ,tell him u feel same..being all the time home with none but the chores...there no time for u to hav some peace of mind & relaxaxtion
u gotta find urself a hobby...& as for ur son..hes 2yrs so start talkin to him too..saying mama needs help or mama is sad who will help..make him do stuff of his on own with u as watching over..else hes really gonna get too dependant on u...
find a day off for urself..if u cant then force it on saying u aint feeling like doing anything & just ask ur hubby & child to join u in leisure....
dont take chores so hard...thay can wait but peace of mind is something u need to work on...
& once u get on screamin it will just become a habit...& would result more bad..on u & ur child...
spend more time with ur baby..playing, answering him..also could teach things through internet...
& plz do find time for urself..make a schedule..it should help
welll...its easy said..but needs lot of patience..& a happy thought...so start enjoyin..u dont hav to slog for everything everyday...except for cookin ofcourse..
hope u help urself...
best wishes..
2006-10-10 17:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi! elevating toddlers is a *community* undertaking. It looks such as you're taking each and every of the burden solo, and not giving your self any day out. hit upon a social club or casual interest you like, including a theater appreciation team, a charity, or a club based around a favourite interest or craft, fishing, bowling, golfing, etc.... in simple terms as long because it gets you out of the domicile, remote from the infant, and is a effective, extremely than detrimental, bypass time. set aside a particular day and time to have interaction in this time out, and ask for a sitter. no count how tempted you're, *do not* abuse this timeout, and confirm you are the place you're meant to be, and which you drop off and %. up the infant on time, each and every time. everybody is rapid to panic in the event that they think of you're taking benefit of them, and you do not prefer to lose their help. i'm the caretaker of two handicapped human beings, and my Godsend is a handful of acquaintances that i will call each time and talk approximately each and every thing *yet* my problems. I even have some alleviation help, and, I belong to a pair of social golf equipment. My Fridays and Saturdays are inviolate, yet, I in no way push my success. I wager those issues could help you too. carry close in there, and don't sense undesirable approximately being burned out. Take a breather, and you will sense lots extra perfect approximately infant.
2016-11-27 20:46:40 · answer #2 · answered by thweatt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy you need Professional help and you sound like your just going to walk away, maybe that is what he needs, plan a week or two away to visit family, and play a little game on him and not tell him where your going or where you are..see if he wakes up..men at times can be there for you so they think but really aren't there for you...talk to him and until he changes, maybe Pray too...good luck...
2006-10-10 17:30:45 · answer #3 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry but if My man did that I'd up and leave. So what he has a job boo who he can still come home and help then go and lay down. He needs to come to his senses before it's to late.
2006-10-10 17:31:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you've lost the thing that brought you two together, I just hope you guys could try to take a couple of steps back.
2006-10-10 17:39:37 · answer #5 · answered by Bantree 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GIRL, your not alone. I feel the same way too. Ask him to do something easy, go easy though.
2006-10-10 17:50:14 · answer #6 · answered by KaPaul L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So...what exactly is your question?
2006-10-10 17:27:41 · answer #7 · answered by brokeninthebox 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋