i have 3 children aged 12, 8 and 3. they are all children of 3 different doctors i worked with (i am a nurse). i am married to a great man, he is a mechanic. He thinks all three children are his. I just always acted like they were his, and he has been a great father. I just wanted children from physicians, because i want smart, successful "genes". all my children function way higher than other children there age. They are all at the top of their classes and are really going to be successful, just like their doctor daddies. I am very glad I had the affairs and got pregnant by these doctors. my question is that should i finally let my husband know? my mother is pushing me to tell him, because she just found out about all this from my co-worker (long story).. My mom wants me to tell him. Should I? Do you think he will understand?
2006-10-10 17:22:13 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Gender Studies
You should sell your story to a paper (Like the Sun) if you live in the UK (after you've told the father of course). Then you'll be raking it in.
From the father's point of view, I think he will be incredibly insulted first, angry second, and resentful third. Resentment will turn into full blown chaos.
I don't think you should be with him if you didn't think he was intelligent enough to father your children.
Bad move.
2006-10-10 21:23:15 · answer #1 · answered by quay_grl 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If this is a real question, has it ever occurred to you that your children could be doing well in school because maybe you made them feel secure when they were babies AND because they have had the love of the "great father" who happens to be a mechanic? Has it ever occurred to you that their mechanic-father (and he is their real Daddy) could have far better genes than his job would suggest? Has it occurred to you that your wish to encourage a mentality of success may be the reason for your children's doing well? Before you went ahead and had 3 affairs with co-workers didn't you know that sometimes people with IQ's in the top two percent come from blue-collar parents?
If your question is true I find it difficult to imagine anyone having the ability to be cruel enough to tell this man that the children he believes are his are not, and that you have essentially made a giant fool of him. What a devastating, horrible, cruel, thing
The children are, as far as I would think, your husband's children by law. He should take them and leave you to have your affairs and to wallow in your misguided ignorance about what makes an intelligent and successful child. By the way, your children are too young for you to yet know whether they will be successful. Children often excel in lower grades, and then when they get to be 13 begin to underachieve for any number of reasons.
Before you decide whether to tell your husband you ought to seek the guidance of a mental health professional. I'm not being fresh. You need psychiatric help, and maybe once you get that underway you'll be better able to make the decision about whether to devastate your husband, maybe your children, and probably your marriage.
By the way, when you were trying to make sure your children had "good" genes didn't it occur to you that the sleezy and irresponsible behavior of these doctors just might be a sign that these people had some character or personality defect?
2006-10-11 02:50:53 · answer #2 · answered by WhiteLilac1 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do think you should tell him. He is your husband. He has the rite to know. Also if hes such a good man like you say he is then you would rather he find out from you than find out later when hes the talk of the town. Ohhhh... and about the other question. No i don't think he'll understand. Hes going to feel as if though you don't think his "genes" are good enough. You're making it seems like any children you would have with him would have some sort of mental disability. But you cant get mad at him if he chooses to get upset. You brought this on yourself.
2006-10-11 00:37:48 · answer #3 · answered by *~*BeLiNa*~* 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is women like you that make the rest of us look bad. How do you plan to brooch this subject with your husband? Honey by the way i cheated on you 3 times because your not smart enugh to be the father of my children. Go ahead and tell him I hope he leaves you. That is what you deseve.. ps I hope one of your successfull doctors give you something. You are a worthless pig hope your kids did"nt pick up on that!
2006-10-11 00:39:41 · answer #4 · answered by Sandra K 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If this situation is really true then you have really messed up everyone's life. If you're worried about your husband finding out just wait until the kids find out, you won't be seeing them, they will dump you and never come back. Kids aren't little forever, they turn into adults that comprehend things and this won't score you very many points with them. Good luck, you are going to need it.
2006-10-11 23:22:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is weirdess thing i hav ever heard...u too smart.arent u...damnit if i was ur husband..would kick ur A** off to go & hav a wonderful life with someone richer or best....wat r u reproducing ?some kinda of trophy's for urself...its disgusting...the reason that u giv for f***ing around..comeon...dont giv that crap...giv a brk
i really feel bad for ur husband..& to tell u, u r so machanical..u dont act human ..am sorry
u degrade ur husband saying he aint intelligent..well for ur information..intelligence is wat mind can percieve right frm wrong...& true success comes frm perseverance not by conceiving frm docs....
well u might hav meant good..god knows..if ur conscience feels good bout it..well...then do wat u like...u anyway hav too good mechanical mind which measure calculate all as things...
no hard feeling..just felt like speaking since u asked
take care of all
2006-10-11 01:36:40 · answer #6 · answered by chcuda9 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
eventualy the guilt will build up and you will explode.
i think you are better off telling him while you are contious as opposed to (i dont know if you drink ) getting drunk for instince and blabering.
unless you seriously trust your self to never tell i would just tell him right now.
On the other hand, he probably wont understand and want a devorce.
2006-10-11 01:06:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I do think that you should tell him simply put because it seems that a lot of people know and if he hears it from someone else be even more hurt and angry.
2006-10-11 00:27:05 · answer #8 · answered by Nita 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
only if you want a divorce, you are a tramp for the sickest of reasons. no he wont understand, you are a cheat and a ho.
2006-10-11 04:11:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Hey, why do you post this fake question in every category?
2006-10-11 00:28:17 · answer #10 · answered by Sydney'sMommy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋