i have 3 children aged 12, 8 and 3. they are all children of 3 different doctors i worked with (i am a nurse). i am married to a great man, he is a mechanic. He thinks all three children are his. I just always acted like they were his, and he has been a great father. I just wanted children from physicians, because i want smart, successful "genes". all my children function way higher than other children there age. They are all at the top of their classes and are really going to be successful, just like their doctor daddies. I am very glad I had the affairs and got pregnant by these doctors. my question is that should i finally let my husband know? my mother is pushing me to tell him, because she just found out about all this from my co-worker (long story).. My mom wants me to tell him. Should I? Do you think he will understand?
2006-10-10 17:21:39 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i think you're out smarted your self and heading for divorce if you tell him
2006-10-10 17:24:22 · answer #1 · answered by jac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is never okay to cheat on your spouse!!!...How would you feel if your husband was cheating on you?? If you thought so much of your husband.."being a great man and a great father"..then how could you steep so low?? You didn't think he was intellegent enough to father your own children?? Please tell your husband, so he can finally know now, what we all already know. Have you even thought how all of this would affect your children..to find out that the only father they've ever known..is not really thier biological father and mom had her affairs because she thought it would make us smarter!!...If you even a tiny bit of respect for your husband..you need to come clean with him..and change your ways, and pray that he will forgive you. I would also suggest finding a job at a different hospital, atleast this way, you may be able to gain a little respect from your co-workers as well...I'm sure you haven't made a good name for yourself there. I'm sorry to be so harsh..but honestly, I don't feel bad for you, I feel bad for your husband and children. I hope that you are able to save your marriage, and your relationship with both your husband and children.
2006-10-11 01:33:55 · answer #2 · answered by me_ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is probably one of the scummiest things I have ever heard, While you were planning how smart and successful you little doctors would be did you give any consideration to the psychological effects that this could have on these children and thus limiting they're ability to achieve when the truth comes out. And I assure you that sooner or latter it will. Because you are not the only one who knows.
yes you should tell him and no he wont understand. But it still would be better coming from you than someone else.
2006-10-11 00:46:36 · answer #3 · answered by SUPERSTAR X 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea definately tell him. and being a nurse just think if those kids ever get very sick and they need blood work or something that your husband would think he could only help out with. If he finds out and he will only a matter of time.
Now you need a reality check sweeetie. obviously I don't expect you to get this. how do I Know this. well for one you would have never betrayed and lie to your husband the way you have . 2ndly you wouldn't put down the man you so call love for someoene with smarter brains. thats cold. Your not all that yourself. for what you have done. Your lucky any man would want to be with such a sneaky and coniving person as you. So before you trash your husband and his small brain. check yourself out and the things you have done. This affects your husband and your 3 children and all the lies you have told them all . Shame on you.
I'd kick your *** to the curb and get you out of the house and he stay
2006-10-11 00:45:55 · answer #4 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How the hell should anyone know if he will understand, or if he will even forgive u if he finds out. U know him better than anyone else. How do u think he's going to react when he finds out that not only did u have a bunch of affairs, his children whom he thought were his weren't really his to begin with. Good luck to that!
2006-10-11 00:32:03 · answer #5 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you ask if you should tell him buy what about the kids if you tell him they are surely going to find out that is a confession you should take to the grave what would be the point unless you want to hurt your family your mom needs to keep quiet as apparently she is not too great iat instilling morals
2006-10-11 00:37:31 · answer #6 · answered by boss77386 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but someone should have told you long ago that you're pretty disgusting. You not only slept around and lied to your husband, but you're also lying to your kid, on top of that, you're not even guilty for doing so. You're a very SICK woman.
2006-10-11 00:43:48 · answer #7 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what you did was very wrong ,and your hubby deserves a better woman than he has ....and sounds to me like your hubby is going to find out from someone else i mean if your mother found out from someone else so will your husband,and no he wont understand ,the only thing it will do to him is depress him and make him think he is not good enough for you,,and i think you arent good enough for him......just keep in mind your kids will find out maybe not today or tomorrow but one day and they will hold this against you!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-11 00:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by JENNIFER D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think an honest hardworking man such as him doesn't deserve someone like you. Offense intended.
And don't think your kids are all that, a retarded kids mom would say he's a genius.
2006-10-11 00:26:28 · answer #9 · answered by futurefbiguy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it to your grave or ruin all the people in your life lives.
2006-10-11 00:25:42 · answer #10 · answered by lucky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You only need to post this once. Use that refresh button or "go out & come back in." Gee.
2006-10-11 00:25:29 · answer #11 · answered by Larry F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋