I have a friend who is 18 years old and has a baby of 6 months old. The dad of the baby is in jail and now she is pregnat again. I am against abortion; however, she is in a very difficult position and I would like to know what you guys think. Should she abort? or have the baby?
2006-10-10 17:06:23 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Sounds like she's made her bed. If she wants to make a good choice for a change she should have the baby and give it up for adoption.
2006-10-10 17:08:23 · answer #1 · answered by DeeDee 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
She should do whatever is right for her. Personally I respect a person's right to choose, but I do think that abortion is murder. If I were her, and there was nothing wrong with my body that I had to abort, I would have the baby and if I couldn't keep it I'd give it up for adoption... or see if family members could help out and adopt the child (like if her parent's might help, seeing that she is only 18). I don't live her life, I don't know her situation, but I do know that she will regret it forever (everyone I know who's had an abortion, including the guys who's babies were aborted, have been haunted by it and have wondered every time they see a child the age their child would have been, what their child would have been like... the wound never heals). I think if there were a really good reason besides that it's inconvenient and really difficult, then abortion might be a good idea (like a health issue or an abuse situation), but just because life will get hard? No. Not a good idea. I would go for other options besides abortion in this case.
But let me reiterate, I am not your friend, and just expressing my hypothetical opinion. She needs to make the decision on her own.
2006-10-10 17:12:54 · answer #2 · answered by Stephanie S 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
WOW...you are asking for trouble on here with a question like that. Many of the people on here answering questions are doing so for the wrong reasons, and are often very rude and unhelpful, so don't put too much weight on what most of the people will say.
I am certainly pro-choice. YET...my choice, may not be the right choice for you or your friend. This is a major decision that will affect her life indefinatly. What ever she chooses to do will play out as a daily event and occurence in her life until she is no longer a part of the living earth.
She is very young, and already in a bad situation financially, I am sure. Having two children that young will certainly make her life very hard, as too will her childrens lives become. She and the children will have a very difficult road ahead of them for many years to come. But, many people do it everyday, so we all know that while it may be hard, it can be done. Luckily, she has options. So many people are more than willing to adopt, so this is always an option to at least consider. Open adoption may make this easier for her, so that she will remain a part of the childs life. However, abortion is for some people the only choice for many reasons. Many people don't want to bring a child into this world that they cannot support and would have to give away; this is perfectly understandable (no matter what anyone says).
Tell your friend that she has several choices that may or may not be wonderful options for her, and let her know that you support whatever decision she makes. No one can tell her what is right for her in this situation; she will need to follow her heart and head, and do what is best for her and the children.
2006-10-10 17:18:39 · answer #3 · answered by Faith 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
In this case, it seems like abortion is a reasonable choice, but adoption is always nice and safer. Even if you or others may be against abortion, you need to think about the baby's future life. Mainly is it worth having a kid grow up in a poor family, with separate parents who may not be loving, and may possibly be fighting all the time or abusive. I think that if that is the future of that baby's life, then abortion is the best way to go, no child should be deprived of a happy childhood or their biological parents either.
2006-10-10 17:11:47 · answer #4 · answered by bloop87 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
It doesn't matter what we think. It matters even less what you think. The only thing that *does* matter is what your friend thinks. If she is willing to suffer through the pain and social stigma of pregnancy and childbirth, only to give up the baby to adoption, then kudos to her for being strong enough to go through that.
Although I personally do not see myself in a situation in the future where i would ever endorse abortion, I realize its importance in the lives of many young women. I'd much rather have a single choice and be done with it, rather than have a young women carry her unwanted baby to term as a single mother with multiple kids and a minimum wage, barely keeping them off the streets. Having a baby is one of the hardest things a woman can do, especially if she has hopes of finding a better career or continuing her education and having a well-established family later on in life.
2006-10-10 17:13:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
With the information you have provided, I think she should have the baby and put it up for adoption. Abortion is ok in extenuating circumstances, but not as a form of birth control. She should have a tubal ligation afterwards.
2006-10-14 14:40:43 · answer #6 · answered by elanabutcher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Abortion is never the answer in my book. The baby should be put up for adoption, and probably even the 6 month old. Obviously, she isn't showing much responsibility. Birth control isn't that hard to find.
2006-10-10 17:17:11 · answer #7 · answered by lisa s 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Have the baby and give it up for adoption. There are thousands of couples who would die to have that baby and would do a great job raising it. Abortion should only be a last resort, not a birth control method.
2006-10-10 17:09:10 · answer #8 · answered by Joanne B 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
She should check to see if she can adopt the baby out first. In some cases, the adoptive parents will pay all of her medical bills. PLUS she can make it an open adoption, so she can still be involved in the child's life.
If she doesn't want to do that, she could consider keeping the child.
If not, I guess abortion. I wouldn't approve of it, but my best friend had an abortion...and even though I wish she had told me she was pregnant before she had it, I realize she had to do what was best for her.
2006-10-10 17:09:54 · answer #9 · answered by The_Cricket: Thinking Pink! 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
It would be so crual and inhumane for mother if i say should not abort because it is good to say so. The best is let her decide whether she is determined to take the baby however or she choose to abort due to her situation. I will not against her decision.
2006-10-10 17:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by naw m 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋