Emotionally unavailable and happy go lucky the next....?

Question

Hi, I would like an answer, to my situation here... I just broke up
with my b/f a few days ago. Cause he is emotionally detached sometimes, and at other times he's Mr. Happy go lucky. I feel like
I am on a freakin merry go round, with him. It's like he's not here
for me mentally, just physically. Like that's just supposd to be
enough. And it wasn't. We started going off the same page.....my
sister calls him, " 9 lives", cause she feels he's sneaky. But, I
don't know for sure. So, now Iv'e made my bed....all I know is I just
couldn't keep going up and down, round and round.......!!!! HELP!

Answer 1

It appears to me that you know what you need to do, but the question is how to do it? I'd start by weighing the pros and cons, then I'd base my decision on the one with the most amount. I think you should just bail. Example: if you were planning a wedding, knowing you are already a nervous wreck trying to get every detail in order, would you take the time to deal with a coordinator, or bakery that is taking you back and forwards with negative energy? I wouldn't because the situation would get worse, and closer to the wedding date, I am really nerved wreck, worn, and edgy. So, just walk away and don't look back, otherwise years from now you will wonder where all the wasted years went. It may not be easy, but you should ALWAYS love "you" first. God Does. Good Luck!!

Answer 2

I've been in the same situation as you, and leaving him was the best thing I could have done. It's not healthy when the other half isn't investing as much time and effort and care into the relationship as you are. That's when you know it isn't worth pursuing. You made the right decision, you just have to make sure you stay away from him for a while and let yourself get over it.

P.S. if you ever think about just being friends, take my advice: It's not a possibility until you've moved on (and that doesn't mean rebounding!)

Hope this helps you out girly. Be the stronger one!!!

Answer 3

He's bi polar, or Manic depresive, more or less the same dis order depending on which schoold of thought you suscribe to. You met him when he was manic or happy and he was fun...then whamo freak job right? Get away far away don't let him guilt you back they can be very persuasive when manic. Be single for a while it's a hoot

Answer 4

my your ex is bi polar i mean come on who isn't in this day and age i know i am it is the reason my hubby and i broke up the sex was great but we, I couldn't form and emotional connection with him but put me with my friends and i was hell am the life of the party. it wasn't till my whole world fell apart that i realized just how detached i was now i am allot better and taking it one day at a time he needs to work on himself before you guys can work on you. good luck and i hope you find happiness!

Answer 5

Real men tend to be moody and are always avoiding to much emotional stuff. We just can't handle it very well. Try dating pretty boys. They are more feminine but still bat for the right teem.

Answer 6

I think you already know what to do. when you're in a situation that makes you miserable, get out of it... you will be happy you did!