I am being forced to move into a rented bedroom, and the interest on the arrears means I will never catch up. My ex has a college degree, types 90wpm, and speaks 3 languages. She's taken a lame job, way under her potential. She now lives with my ex-friend, and is pulling in 3 incomes. (Hers, His, and big chunk of mine.) we have 50/50 custody. She did not put me through college, on the contrary, I was the one to help her as she went from job to job. I don't have the money for another round of lawyering. How is this fair? And for years? How do I fight this? DCSS just seems intent on collecting money. And my lawyer is lame, and now I owe him as well. Any fathers in Ventura that have dealt with this? Any advocates? Ideas? (serious only, please).
Thanks!
2006-10-10 16:35:39 · 4 answers · asked by Sad-Dad 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I understand what you are going through.Its B.S.Unfornately ,you cannot do anything unless you go back to court.
Here's what got me through !!!!
For one. you need to forget all the stuff that you have done for your ex wife (good or bad) .. IT DOESN'T MATTER ANYMORE.Both of you are not together.
2.Just take it day by day.. Your kids will grow up and appreciate all the sacrifies that you are currently on..Kids are not dumb.They will know and thank you..And they will realise that their mom was just in it for the money~!!!!
I feel your pain and others that are going through this stuff...Good Luck and Best Wishes..
2006-10-10 17:00:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you will catch up even though you cant see it at this moment.
What the courts do to Dads is nuts. They wonder why there are Dead Beat Dads. Reason they run away so they can live like before.
You can go back to court and plead your case and hope for a little more money. As far as your ex is concerned what she makes is considered not what she could make. Be happy with that because the court is going on what you can make not what you could make.
Be a great Dad for your children and work your way out slowly. You building yourself back up and being a great Dad will show your children what you are and they will love you for it.
Good luck
2006-10-10 20:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to go back to court , if you have 50/50 time the judge would take both your income into account and then rule on child support , if your making more than her no matter what her job is you going have to pay some money , the good news is the judge takes in account the time spent with the child so you wouldnt have to pay very much
2006-10-10 16:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by loboboh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should be Luckey that you get anything at all because my husband is on disability and I wont get a dime for support. So I know I will have to work 2 jobs just to support my child
2006-10-10 16:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by kristal930 k 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋