I have this friend that I have known for two years and we get along awesomely. One day, I discovered that I liked her ex-boyfriend and I immediately told her because I thought it was the right thing to do. She was happy about it and told me that she would do whatever it took to get us together. Then one day, she told me that she talked to him (even when I told her not to because I wanted to do it myself) and that he said he liked me as a friend, but wanted to get to know me. I'm a little shy, so it's hard for me to be confident and flirtatious. A week later, a close friend of hers informed me that this friend of mine actually DIDN'T talk to him and was GOING BACK OUT WITH HIM! I'm angry with her, but haven't confronted her because she's been gone for a few days. Tomorrow, I'll see her, but I'm not sure how to handle the situation. NONE of my friends have EVER backstabbed me before. A little advice and guidance would be great right now.
Thanks.
2006-10-10 16:35:29 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
To start out NEVER want a friends EX..It will never work out ..I wouldn't want one of my friends to go with my Ex..No that's not a good thing to do..Find someone else and forget about him..You see your friend I would say got a little jealous that you liked her ex and in reality she probably never wanted you to have him, and I can understand that..I mean she may not be with him but dep inside she may still care if not still loves him and you were like a threat to those feelings..Don't be upset with her she just doesn't want you to be with him..Find someone else and personally I don't consider that back stabbing she just felt like you invaded her space even if she wasn't no longer with him...
2006-10-10 16:45:05 · answer #1 · answered by Just Dreamin' 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pp is right....never see a bf's ex! it only messes things up between the two of you. never let a man come between your friendship. trust me hun its not worth it.
second, two years is a long time. i would confront her and ask her why she did it. not over the phone, but somewhere private where she cant put on a front. also, putting her on the spot will make her more than likely tell the truth cuz she will be so surprised that you asked that she wont have time to come up with a lie. i would take it from there depending on her answer.
good luck!
2006-10-10 23:53:14 · answer #2 · answered by portuguese_tease 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i too have suffered from "back stabbage" before. in high school a "friend" of mine ended up sitting on my dance date's lap, and a week later they were going out, oh did i mention i had a HUGE crush on him? then she would invite me over when he was there, and i would watch them kiss. basically, i put up with it and said nothing. id say the best thing to do is confront her, not in a OMG what did you do way, but more like hey... whats going on? and if in fact she is back with him, then obviously you are WAY too good for her and him. if he's attracted to that type of girl that causes drama, then you most likely want no part of it. i dont know how young you are, but guaranteed you will find someone that deserves your time. best thing to do, let it go... and re-examine your friendship circle and surround yourself with people that truly care for your happiness and well being!
2006-10-10 23:43:36 · answer #3 · answered by hearts_for_gyllenhaal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a way you can't really be mad because you shouldn't like her ex and if she still liked him she should have told you but the best thing to do is just sit down and talk about it.
2006-10-10 23:40:42 · answer #4 · answered by nekke3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know that our feelings are so hard to hide but why your friends ex man even though they are not together why her ex she wasnt cool with the fact that you was interested in him and so thats why she made it her buisness to get back with him most likely just to spite you but by all means tell her how YOU FEEL and then walk away its much better that way trust me i know ...good luck p. s. there is a nice guy out here somewhere all you have to do is find him good luck ok ...bye ...M
2006-10-10 23:41:47 · answer #5 · answered by Maria M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've done the drill. if u confront her she'll tease if you don't, she be teasing more. i confront her and tell her how i feel about her doing that to me and say she got issues with backstabbing
2006-10-10 23:40:35 · answer #6 · answered by choochi98 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A friend's ex should ALWAYS be off limits!!!
2006-10-10 23:38:48 · answer #7 · answered by tray69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋