how can you get a woman to forgive you for a little lie you told over 3 yrs ago is it possiable. I am having a problem with my girl she still holds a gruge over me over a lie about my ex wife of when i finally got with another woman. It had nothing to do with her. How can i make this better it has now been 6 yrs and I get attitude when i ask her her feelings about me or when we go out she always wants one of our friends to go it isn't ever just her and I. how can I change this or is this relationship over. I love her with all of me but i don't know what to do
2006-10-10 16:21:45 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
the thing that makes this very hard is that we are married and I have 3 step-children with her now that we are married been married for 3 yrs.
2006-10-10 16:29:48 · update #1
sounds like the relationship is over. That's terrible to have to go out only with friends, and if she is still holding a grudge after 6 years, I would think its time to say "Adios"!!
Well, since you're married, I would consider marriage counseling first then if that doesn't work, a separation or divorce might be the next best option...unless you can see yourself living like this for the rest of your life.
2006-10-10 16:25:05 · answer #1 · answered by Jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately you can't make her forgive you as you are well aware. I would assume you have done all you can do and if you have done nothing to her, I see no reason for her to hold a grudge against you. I bet if she has had a problem for this long she isn't going to get over it anytime soon. I also think it will cause long term problems in your relationship. As hard as it may be, I think you have to let go and find someone who can deal with you in a relationship between TWO people, you and her and not be such a history major. I have a past, my wife may or may not, we don't ask each other, we have our own life together and that is what OUR future is based on. I think you will be doing yourself a favor if you move on as hard as it may be in the short term. Best of luck!
2006-10-10 16:34:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can't do this for her. She has to realize on her own that holding this over you is killing the relationship. People stay together for less, putting up with worse crap than that. When she brings it up, just roll your eyes and say, yeah it was a terrible thing to do, but I've never done it before or since. Do I get a doggie treat now?
I mean, if you are taking it seriously, then something else is bothering you, or you are trying to find a way out of it.
2006-10-10 16:43:30 · answer #3 · answered by Shinigami 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it has been three years...I think that ship has sailed on trying to make her get over it.....and if you two have been together for 6 years and she still wants a friend to go on a date with you then...a red flag should come up that this may not be the one for you, good luck...next time start honest!!!
2006-10-10 16:25:31 · answer #4 · answered by tanya 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it's all over boss. Or you can get out more on your own and start playing hard-to-get
2006-10-10 16:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her and move on, she seems as though she isn't going to trust you so why put yourself through it.
2006-10-10 16:47:42 · answer #6 · answered by King Midas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋