My boyfriend & I have been together for 2 yrs. He works 12-14 hrs/day; usually sleeping until 10am, going in @ 11am & doesnt come home until 11pm-12:30 or so.( He is definately at work all this time) this schedule is 6 days/week & now he works several hrs on most Sundays as well. anyway, I only really see him for about an hour before I go to sleep... we dont communicate much; he wants to fill any time he has off w/ his interests because he is so fed up w/ work & hes in a bad mood a lot because he works so much. Anyway, he says he loves me; its just that he has to do this right now to get where he wants to be... I love him, too, but, is it realistic to expect that ANY two people can survive together under these circumstances?
2006-10-10 16:20:55 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sometimes sacrifices have to be made, even if its your time together, if you love eachother like you say you do, everything will be fine, just be patient, work wont always be like that, once his hard works pays off, it'll all change, trust me, people are in the army and haven't seen their husbands and wives with kids in months, so if you have an hour together, love that time together, love ya, muah muah, goodluck
2006-10-10 16:25:15 · answer #1 · answered by start w/ laughs ends witha fight 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I Live In A Mining Town In Australia, And My Boyfriend Works At One Of These Mines... He Is On Very Awarkward Shifts Also, And YES When He Gets Home All He Wants To Do Is Stuff that He Enjoys... Try And Talk To Him, Plan Things With Him That You BOTH Like... I Know Its Very Hard, But Try And Stick By Him While He Makes A Living For The Both Of You...
2006-10-10 16:39:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say what his profession is or what his goals are. Is he working so hard to secure a future for the both of you? Sure, two people can survive such a relationship if you have common goals. On the other hand, sometimes people are so involved in making money that all other relationships suffer and they find themselves alone and missing the one they loved the most. Only you can decide if this arrangement is worth waiting it out. Another point is that you may sacrifice your time with him now and he may find someone else later. Good luck. Hope it works out for you.
2006-10-10 16:35:45 · answer #3 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's hard to balance work and social life. tell him that you need his full attention and not be working on a project at the same time. but if he says he absolutely has to work get over him and find someone who will be attentive and have time for you. besides if you keep going out sooner or later you will get frustrated and break up with him. so don't waste your time if you see work is his TOP priority. sure work is important but there are times when something else is more important. remember balance and love are they keys to a great relationship, no opposites don't attract.
ask yourself, if he gets were he wants to be will he have more time for me or will it be the same as always? if he is working so hard to get somewhere and have a future he surely should have plans with you. ask yourself this, will you be in his future? i don't think two people can survive together under those circumstances. just ask him if he has bigger plans for the future because then he will still be working hard and not having enough time. if you feel like he will really change then go for it. but if you have any doubts don't go for it because its because you are unsure of him. i hope i helped you. : )
2006-10-10 16:38:21 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a lot to make something like that work...You both need to be independent, able to care of anything while the other is not there and its hard. If you love him, enjoy the time you have together. Try and plan a weekend getaway once in a while...It doesn't have to be fancy, just something for you two...He could be in the military and deployed for months on end and those relationships have a high divorce rate, at least you get to see him...So enjoy your time with him....
2006-10-10 17:15:09 · answer #5 · answered by ABBYsMom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i use to have the same kind of life working long hours and if thier were any problems i would have to get up and go. I gave her a nice car a condo and gifts everytime we had together it lasted 4 yrs till i came home one day and she was gone she said she loved me but felt alone all the time.I just let her go because i did see how said she was. So in my opinion if you hate being alone then no it wont work
2006-10-10 16:54:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are together, are you both happy? does time stand still for a moment and both of you enjoy a "little eternity" ? It should be so when you are in love. But when things just go past and all in a hurry...then maybe you have to reconsider if this relationship is gonna work out in th long run.
2006-10-10 16:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by jet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really depends on the people themselves. my husband was in the military and would be gone up to 6 months at a time and we would only email. if it is bothering you tell him. if you can't deal, no need to stay if you're miserable--no matter how much you love him. i personally though would stick with it for a little longer. you never know, it may end up with him having some kick-*** promotion that gets you more of his time. you never know. just make sure you don't stay unhappy just because you worried someone might get hurt.
2006-10-10 16:28:58 · answer #8 · answered by jflaherty12 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That will depend on what he's striving for. Have you told him how u really feel? With out communication a relationship can die. You may want to find something that will occupy your time too. If this continues your relationship is grave danger.
Miss D
2006-10-10 16:28:51 · answer #9 · answered by Miss D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not for very long, he may be trying to bring in as much money as possible, but he should consider getting a new job, this one obviously is putting too much stress on him and effectin those around him - mainly you.
2006-10-10 16:23:06 · answer #10 · answered by zion354 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋