I was with an ex boyfriendn who was giving me unwanted sexual advances and madeit clear that I didnt want it and the man continued to coherse and pressure me to the point that I somehow owe him because he "was there for me" and because if I was a real friend I would give him what I wanted. Even after I began to cry he kept trying to touch me telling me it wasnt fair that he had given me so much and now I would give to him when he wanted it. I'm not sure how to understand stand what happened. I have felt guilty about sex before like alot of girls but this time its different I feel violated ashmed and guilty that this happened and I didnt want it to. I eventualy stoped saying no and let him do what he wanted to me untill my vagina dried up and I stared crying again. I pushed him off and he stoped but then began to masterbate over me and I lay there silently crying with my eyes shut. I unerstabd i wasnt beaten or physicaly forced but I feel like i got forced mentaly.
2006-10-10 16:07:14 · 15 answers · asked by jessica 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
It sounds like you could use professional help to sort this out - perhaps you could call a women's crisis center and talk to a counselor . . . and start seeing a counselor for a few sessions . . . maybe join a group.
2006-10-10 16:11:44 · answer #1 · answered by a_blue_grey_mist 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea hun, that's still considered rape. You didn't want to, plain and simple. This guy has some serious issues, and you need to stay as far away from him as possible. And if any guy still tries to have sex with you especially when your crying about it, then it is rape. I'm so sorry that this happened to you. Sometimes I wonder myself which one is worse, forcibly rape, or mentaly cohersed. You should not feel guilty about hat happened. You are not in any way a bad person for "letting it happen". Try to put it behind you and have no tolerance for this behavior from anyone else. Maybe a little bit of counseling might helped, but this should make you feel more prepared to deal with this kind of advance in the future remember how it made you feel last time) Have a lovely day hun.
2006-10-10 23:18:55 · answer #2 · answered by Cerrah 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You already asked this same question. you sound like you feel really guilty for not doing anything and letting it happen. It's not rape. you need to go get some counseling or therapy and find some self esteam so that you can stand up for yourself and not let people take advantage of you
2006-10-10 23:16:20 · answer #3 · answered by fit4life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it sounds like you were raped. No means no, no matter when you say it. Being emotionally manipulated like he did can be more traumatic than being overcome physically. You need to get help, and I hope you consider filing charges, because he'll do it again to other women, and if left unchecked he most likely will become violent.
2006-10-10 23:34:03 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are so sick. Pretending to be a woman in this position when in reality you probably did this to someone and are scared that she may have you arrested for rape. You deserve it and if I could talk to this girl I'd tell her to take it as far as possible, at least it might prevent you from hurting someone else and your wife would find out. You are sick!!!
2006-10-10 23:11:55 · answer #5 · answered by MISS-MARY 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Here's the thing. Two weeks ago you were a man and looking for a nice beach to take your wife to. I don't think you've had enough time to have a sex change operation.
2006-10-10 23:14:16 · answer #6 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wohh that guy is messed up, I am a 23 year old male finishing college and that is about as bad as any rape story i have heard before. Stay the hell away from him. or should i say you jason j i think oyu like to rape girls huh sicky
Now you have changed your name to Jessica huh rapist!!!
2006-10-10 23:10:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i've been through a similar thing...email if you want to talk or want some help...i'll even tell you what happened to me but i'm not going to type it for the whole world to read so send me an email.
2006-10-10 23:28:28 · answer #8 · answered by lylitalianbeauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey that is rape. You've been raped.
Please call rape crisis, OK? They have resources they can set you up with...
I am so sorry you had to experience that, no one should ever.
Your ex-boyfriend committed a crime upon your body. He is messed up and completely in the wrong.
2006-10-10 23:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by Dr. Max 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have asked this question twice with two different versions, and have changed your name from Jason to Jessica. I think this is a sick joke.
2006-10-10 23:12:34 · answer #10 · answered by Justsyd 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋