sometimes he calls me but i just think that is because he feels bad about treating me the way he did. yes he was rich and very smart but that was all he had going for him he was a jerk on top of a jerk. i feel bad for missing him i am married and have a kid, but sometimes i just wish i was still with him. i was so very much inlove with him. what should i do? why do i still fell this way about him after 7 years.
2006-10-10 15:41:18 · 10 answers · asked by wayladuley 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Whether or not you completely moved on, he still holds a part of your heart. He was a big part of your life and you never forget those you loved
2006-10-10 15:52:28 · answer #1 · answered by KS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh sweetie I know your pain.
Everything I see reminds me of him...this whole state makes me sad. We had been together for 12 years then his drug use and violence made me leave him.
It's been 3 years without him now. I see a Queen Anne's Lace flower and I cry. I can't watch certain movies that we had seen together. Any other man that show any interest in me is nothing compared to him (in my eyes). I've been through therapy, but it doesn't matter. Sometimes there really is our one and only. It's too bad that sometimes that one and only is not to be for forever.
I'm not trying to bring you down. What you feel is normal and I think a lot of people feel the same way.
I wish I had an answer that could make you feel better, maybe just knowing that you are not alone might help.
I wish you peace and happiness.
2006-10-10 15:47:59 · answer #2 · answered by Chrissy: The Angry Typer a/k/a Mood Mole 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that the reason you feel this way about this guy after 7 years is because deep down even though he was a jerk to you that you truely did love him and what you are remembering is the love you felt and missing that.. Its normal just remember how much happier you are now and that you did the right thing... Never doubt that much.... No reason you can not enjoy the good memories
2006-10-10 15:45:43 · answer #3 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You still have feeling's, but it's better to let these feeling's go.. it didn't work out for a reason right? Would you want to go through all of that again? Nope.. it's best to not answer his phone calls, and just exclude him altogether.. if your married now... that's gotta be hurtful towards your husband.
Don't wish that you were still with him.. be glad you have your own life now, and a child! =)
Don't look back upon it.. let go of him, and then all those feeling's will fade away.. if you still keep in contact, it'll make it harder and harder..there are feeling's.. but with any other ex you'll think of them from time to time.. but don't let it effect your future.
Avoid contact, and the feeling's will go away, and then you'll be able to stop thinking on him =)
2006-10-10 15:46:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, who leave who? if he left you, you wonder, curious on what went wrong. since you are married now, you just have to move on and concentrate on your new family. if you left him, probably you are guilty and wondering if you made the wrong decision. other than that, those sad feeling is natural since he still talk or calls you...
i've left my ex and he still calls me, we are still friends but i know he was deeply hurt cause i didn't give him any chance for any reconciliation.i think if a woman leave the man, it will be an insult and will not accept the fact. im glad we didn't have any kid cause i probably stayed with him just like he assumes. but i didn't regret my decision, im happy cause i don't want to stay in a relationship with the same arrangement. he thinks that i will fall cause he's not with me, im too strong of a woman to deal with that kind of situation.
2006-10-10 15:55:55 · answer #5 · answered by salome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is caled being meloncoly. You remember the good times and want them back. but it is just a fantasie.
2006-10-10 15:46:00 · answer #6 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is very hard to digest your first love.
2006-10-10 15:47:30 · answer #7 · answered by Seagull 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because women love jerks.... so rarely do they admit it..... women date jerks... nice guys get curbed.... women weep when their jerks prance off to spread their jerkness.... nice guys get porn and cupcakes..... jerks get women and then they cheat on them
2006-10-10 15:47:02 · answer #8 · answered by i like fried chicken 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cause you still love him. learn to forgive him for the mistreatment, and focus on your hubby. do you love him?
2006-10-10 15:44:17 · answer #9 · answered by kerik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u ar4e emotional and u may not be over him.
2006-10-10 15:45:25 · answer #10 · answered by §†reet R¥dA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋