we have been friends for two years met totaly by accident. at work the more we talk the more we like each other the more we talked found out the more in comon we were good friend then more then more i am in love with her , will i ever get over it ,i can't stop thinking about her, everywhere i look she is there i close my eyes she is there, i hirt so much i have know idea what to do i didn't even know a person could ever feel how i do someone please help whaat do i do /
2006-10-10 15:37:37 · 23 answers · asked by Hard Luck 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is very difficult. However, I have been in that position myself twice both with sad results/endings.
First time I was married and guy fell in love with me made it known to my husband before I knew. Of course long story short our marriage was effected and ending in divorce. (before my divorce was finalized the guy who "loved me" was already seeing someone else).
Second time I worked with a guy we both feel in love after being just friends (and that is the truth) for a year. I was single however, he was dating someone. For several years we lived in this confusion. In the end and lots of tears later he decided to propose to his girlfriend.
Best advise I can give is let things be. There are more people involved in this than you may know and they could get hurt.
I know it is hard however, sometimes we can't fit into someones life the way we want. Only the way we can.
2006-10-10 15:48:56 · answer #1 · answered by cutetoes68 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the answer to your question without putting it in Yahoo. What do you do? You back off. It's easy to get involved with someone at work because you have the "work" connection. But you have no right to love her like you say you do. She's married. If you can't handle it, get transferred or find another job. Besides, you may be no more than a flirtation for her. It's fun to flirt, ya know. And you may be giving her the attention she doesn't get at home. You can remain friends, but don't ever tell her how you feel. My thoughts are though that if you feel so strongly for her then you should put some distance between the two of you. It's the only way to deal with it.
2006-10-10 15:53:58 · answer #2 · answered by Blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is that if you keep up with the behavior your doing, she might actually be there in reality. A woman that will sleep with another man while she is married is not someone that I could have a lot of trust in. I would always be thinking is it my turn now?
Besides, the behavior can be dangerous. Some men think violence when it comes to their wife. There are zillons of women out there, single, looking and looking good. Don't waste your life on fantasies...
2006-10-10 15:46:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
YES this is wrong. As soon as you find out someone is married, you should never entertain the thought in your mind again,and you wouldnt be here having this problem. Try finding someone to date and realize this woman is another mans wife and she goes home to him every night. The sooner you start dating other women and looking at other prospects, the sooner you can fix what damage has been done. good luck!
2006-10-10 15:43:26 · answer #4 · answered by luv2bawifenmom 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
According to your previous questions, 7 months ago you were a 44 year old married man. What's that all about?
2006-10-10 15:44:56 · answer #5 · answered by phoenixheat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's wrong! Distance yourself from her as far as you can as soon as you can. Get a transfer to a different department or even change jobs if you have to. She is someone's wife I'm sure there's single girls on you job you can talk to.
2006-10-11 14:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by merry59 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do u not get the married part she is married and happy and because u like her a lot doesn't matter go find someone that is not married and do her get over her let her live her life without you apart of it.i know it is mean but it is true.move on.there is someone for you and everyone is the world
2006-10-10 15:48:36 · answer #7 · answered by lulu 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is wrong.Leave her in peace.You will destroy her marriage,and she will suffer the consequences ..Let her in peace,before you will hurt her in really bad way.There are thousands of women, around the world,why you will hurt and destroy a marriage?Think in that.You can find a good and not married woman in your own city.Do not bother her,she will be the victim of you,she will suffer; if you do not stop thinking in her.Do not be one more of thousands, who destroy everyday good marriages,only for satisfy a desire.Good question.
2006-10-10 16:56:19 · answer #8 · answered by cobrasnake 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't do anything. I don't believe that there is just one person for someone. Try looking elsewhere until you can find someone that you can love that's single. Crushes come and go... guilt lasts forever.
2006-10-10 15:42:26 · answer #9 · answered by jbaileybabe 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that is a tough road to go down-and i can tell you it will only get tougher-so for your sanity i would stay away -even if it means quitting your job! Or break the friendship up -until or IF she becomes available
2006-10-10 15:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋