let me start off saying that i am a guy and i am not sure if i am gay straight or bi, i am not in a hurry label myself so i can make the right choice. so their is this guy at my school and i do like him. he is sweet. funny, and smart, you know, i really can get along with him, we just connect. now he isn't some random dude that i just developed a crush on, i have known him for a minute. he does act kind of you know, femine, but does that really mean much? yeah i heard people say that he is gay but i don't. my best friend said that his sister said he was gay, but can't be too sure. i flirt with him, i THINK he flirts back, how do i make the first move without exsposing myself too much.
2006-10-10 15:31:24 · 9 answers · asked by when_in_doubt.... 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Friendship, playfulness, etc. are not an indication.
I heard the best one watching an episode of Joan of Arcadia. Younger brother was asking older brother how he would know. There is this moose and he thinks he's a moose but someone said that because he sniffs flowers he's really and elk, so how does he know? Older brother said, when you take a shower who do you think of? Younger brother says, nothing. Older brother corrects, No, the longer showers. The younger brother then listed off some famous women's names. The older brother said, You are a moose--and don't ever ask me about this again.
So, when you take your long showers, who do you think of?
2006-10-10 16:12:35 · answer #1 · answered by Rabbit 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First, the easiest way to figure out your orientation is to consider your sexual fantasies when masturbating. Straight men don't have orgasms thinking about sex with other men. If you fantasize about men, you are gay; women, then you are straight; and if you imagine yourself having sex with both men and women, then you are bi.
Now, for this other guy - I wouldn't do anything if I were you. If you aren't sure about your orientation, you'll make your life much more complicated if you flirt with a guy when you have no intention of getting together with him. If you want to cultivate him as a friend, you'll need to find some common interests - if he's into acting and you're into football, that just isn't going to work as a school friendship.
If there is a gay-straight alliance group at your school, go along and meet some of the people there - that will help you with your orientation problem, and allow you to meet both gay and straight guys in a safe and welcoming environment.
2006-10-11 10:07:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may not know you're interested, so grab the bull by the horns and find someplace where you can talk to him alone. I'm not saying make a pass at hime right away, but make an effort to look like you enjoy talking with him (and, especially, listening to what he has to say). When you're comfortable, ask him what he does on the weekends and who he likes to hang out with. Just don't push the gay thing -- that may scare him away. But definitely make a lot of eye contact and SMILE!
2006-10-10 22:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by Sean 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sean and fruit snack have both giving you good advice. But you do have to be carefully about not pushing the gay thing to much because if he hasn't been in a relationship with a guy he could get scared off easily.
2006-10-11 00:02:01 · answer #4 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also agree with fruit cup. I think that you should take it easy. Spend time together and don't worry about it. Maybe he will bring it up, or you can ask him something like "are you dating anyone?" or "who would you like to date?" Maybe he will come out. But, to make it easier, I would tell him something like "my uncle is gay. He's really cool. He and I get along great" so that he knows that you don't mind gay people and that you can get along great with them. He might clue in that you are giving him the option of coming out and might take it, but if not, at least he will know for later that he can come out to you and not fear being beaten or otherwise attacked.
2006-10-10 23:57:04 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
LOL do what i did when i wanted to get a bi-curious guy play video games somthing like football or basketball beat let them win say they were cheating somehow end up wrestling let him pin you down and go for the move
2006-10-14 14:50:24 · answer #6 · answered by James T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, that's a change from your last question....but anyhow, yeah, fruit_snack is right. Just be cool with him. Timmers is right too. Good luck.
2006-10-11 05:57:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with fruit snack. Just hang out and see what happens.
2006-10-10 22:38:59 · answer #8 · answered by crystal89431 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
invite him over to play video games.. it will be laid back and casual...
then bring up the subject of girls and ask who he is taking to prom....
then take it from there..
2006-10-10 22:35:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋