Here's the scenerio, mother of my daughter is going out of town for a few days (found out from another person, she is trying to keep it from me) The ex has decided that instead of bringing my daughter over to my house for a few days she has set up a live in babysitter for a few days. This man, a very good friend of hers and his brother will be with him as he has to be. The brother was in prison and was released under his brothers care, he has to be with him all the time. The rap sheet is a mile long with theft, trafficking, possession and assault etc etc. We went to our lawyer found out options, we know what needs to be done and what we will be doing but just looking for opinions on what others would do in this situation. This will be taking place as of tomorrow night and the person whom was told about this, who told us made it clear to the mother it was not a good idea and should be definitely left with me or a responsible adult.
2006-10-10 15:21:51 · 15 answers · asked by firefighter 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
Also, this is going through courts for custody, no court order of any kind has been made.
2006-10-10 15:24:00 · update #1
Why are you asking this question here? You should be on your way to pick up your daughter, then take the situation to your attorney for restrictions against such things.
2006-10-10 16:20:03 · answer #1 · answered by 75160 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a mom I think I would request that my head be examined before I left my child with anyone who has been to jail and needs a babysitter himself. Obviously there's joint custody here therfore you have every right to your daughter, I would go get her for a "few day visit" and not bring her back until you can get this in front of a judge. What would have happened to your daughter had you not found out? She doesn't seem like a very good mommy to trust her daughter with someone with such a negative history, I know I wouldn't. Good luck
2006-10-10 19:28:02 · answer #2 · answered by funnychic30 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, what is the question? Obviously you are smart enough to get legal counseling and should act in accordance to the lawyer's guidance. If you want to know if we think you should get get your child out of there, my answer is YES. Actually, regardless of how nice your wife's friend is (and even if the brother wasn't involved) there is no reason why a child should be with strangers when she/he has another parent available. And, although it may sound prejudicial, this is specially worry some if this baby sitter is a male because there is a higher probability of him being a sex offender.
2006-10-10 15:56:10 · answer #3 · answered by leblongeezer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm...we had a similar situation, but didn't really know the mother was married to a sex offender who hadn't registered. We didn't find this out until the State of California informed us. I say go pick up your child, but WRITE DOWN EVERYTHING, and ask this friend to write down what they know and sign it for future reference. Dot your eyes and cross your Ts. Good luck and go get your child. Not everybody that has been to prison are bad people, but with a long rap sheet - come on now, you already know what to do.
2006-10-10 15:34:23 · answer #4 · answered by Meka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and have them meet you at the house. Walk in, tell your baby momma you know whats going on, pick up your kid as quickly as possible, and get the hell out of there.
And for god's sake, wear a rubber next time man... That way you don't get tied up FOREVER with another skanky ***** like this.
2006-10-10 16:58:50 · answer #5 · answered by tivodan1116 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter obviously means the world to you. Get some good physical or goverment documented evidence against that women, and fight for her if it's the last thing you do.
Your daughter will thank you for it later. I promise. My dad went through a similar thing to get custody of me. I thank him everyday for it.
2006-10-10 15:33:51 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DOn't leave your daughter with these people. The friend may be trustworthy (who knows?), but it's not safe to leave your daughter with his brother. Try talking to the police if you must.
2006-10-10 15:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by K-Rex 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should ask the question a few more times- then go and deal with the lawyer.
2006-10-10 15:23:38 · answer #8 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sue for full custody as this shows the mom is a slut and unfit mother.
2006-10-10 15:23:55 · answer #9 · answered by Meow the cat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go get your daughter, if you have problems, call local law enforcement and if those are all the facts, they will help.
2006-10-10 16:56:29 · answer #10 · answered by ..... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋