I have two children a boy who is 17 months and a girl who will soon be 3 my girl often dosent give any trouble but my son is to the point I dont know where to turn he is mean and bangs his head into our fireplace into the floor the wall he love to hurt himself it seems he headbuts me hits me CONSTANTLY crys trows his food rarely sleeps time out and spankings dont work for him I am to the point where I cry he is so mean to his sister also and its to the point I feel as if he runs our family PLEASE HELP ME we are young parents in our 20 s and dont always know the answers!
2006-10-10 15:02:19 · 13 answers · asked by Ashley 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
OK I understand that I have a 2 year old son and a 1 month old baby girl. You can get ahold of me on yahoo messanger marketing_masters@yahoo.ca It would be nice to talk to another young mom about this for I am a young mom to.
2006-10-10 15:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried time out for him when he misbehaves? I might consider that but only when the behavior is severe. For less severe behaviors, I would try a behavior chart. It would look something like this..
Rules 1 2 3 4 5 Reinforcer
Don't hit 1 2 3 4 5 Ice cream
Don't bang head 1 2 3 4 5 Rice Krispie Treat
Follow directions 1 2 3 4 5 Movie
You would mark one off everytime he does something and if he had spaces left at the end of the week? day? he could earn a reinforcer. Just be sure to follow through with the reinforcer.
2006-10-10 15:07:01 · answer #2 · answered by jlaponic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to the doctor for a complete check-up, and let the doctor know what has been going on. There could be a reason besides bad behavior that your son is out of control.
In the mean time, always be consistent and in control. Never engage in a power struggle with your child- you will lose every time!
When he pitches a fit, just stand there and wait. This defused my youngest son soooo fast! We'd often tell him to hurry up and get it over with, while checking a watch, as though we were in a hurry. He'd get really mad, but guess what? He was mad because his purpose was defeated and the fit came to a screeching halt.
Never give bad behavior any attention (except a consequence afterwards), and reward good behavior. Eventually he will realize that tantrums don't get him anything but trouble, and good behavior has a lot of advantages.
2006-10-10 15:49:54 · answer #3 · answered by suninmyskies 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time outs to work, however, you have to really mean them. Keep putting him back (expect screaming,hitting, etc to start with), if he does something kind (like handing his sister a toy) let him know how good he is. One of the things that it is really hard for parents to learn is that any attention is good attention as far as a child thinks. You will have to reinforce the good and really make the punishments stick.
P.S. at 17 months don't make the time outs too long - 1 to 5 minutes at the most, kids do not have a sense of time yet.
2006-10-10 15:07:10 · answer #4 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call SUPERNANNY!!
Supernanny's Top Ten Rules
If I could sum up my approach to caring for children, these would be my top ten rules. They're based on observation, not on theory. They apply to most situations you're going to face, and you'll find them summarized at the end of each chapter in the section on troubleshooting, where I'll be more specific about how they apply in different cases.
Praise and Rewards
Consistency
Routine
Boundaries
Discipline
Warnings
Explanations
Restraint
Responsibility
Relaxation
http://abc.go.com/primetime/supernanny/toptenrules.html
2006-10-10 15:25:19 · answer #5 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just as everyone else has said.. check with the doctor. Try not to lose your temper... if your child sees you doing this, they will react out and know that it's ok to yell and scream and smack as well. Be firm and consistent. I was at Wal-Mart today and this woman had 5 kids with her. She was screaming her head off at them because they wouldn't listen... well guess what... these little kids were screaming back at her--how embarassing! The entire toy section of patrons were looking at each other as if to say, "oh my goodness!..". My 2 yr. old will also throw a fit and throw himself on the ground if he doesn't get his own way. (as well as bang his head, and throw things) Ignoring him doesn't work.. so as soon as he throws himself on the floor... I say "get up!". And then I try to direct his attention elsewhere. I wish you the best of luck. Hopefully it's just a frustration that he's letting out because he can't be fully understood. (because he can't communication effeciently, as most toddlers can't).
2006-10-10 15:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by Tricia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the filling I have been there before but you are going to have to stay on him because if you dont he will try to run you overand you most diffently do not want that . The things he to play with and the things he like to do just take away from him and punishhim a little more.
2006-10-10 15:10:21 · answer #7 · answered by D'Asia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him to the doctor and make sure first that he is not autistic. Many children are mildly autistic and undiagnosed, often a cause of acting out or appearing not to mind or listen to instruction.
2006-10-10 15:06:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Check with your pediatrician or local health clinic. Maybe he has some pain inside of him that makes him feel bad and so he acts bad for you. If it's a behavioral problem, they can refer you for treatment and the earlier the intervention, the better.
2006-10-10 15:06:35 · answer #9 · answered by Stimpy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time out ....... mine is 2 and thinks shes 20
people say they dont understand but they do...
one min per age year so 17 mos thats 2 mins..
get down to there level to show them your not mad your done with the actions....it works
2006-10-10 15:24:13 · answer #10 · answered by movebytch78 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋