What is the good way not to feel so angry?

Question

I am feeling so angry with a person but I can do anything to that person. But I know I need to vent out. Any suggestions?

Answer 1

Whenever I feel angry with a person, I would focus on doing whatever I was doing ( I mean really focusing) and after a while, my anger would be gone. My advice for you is forget who's at fault, even if the other party is at fault, because sometimes being in a position of being right gives you the right to indulge in your anger. And you got nothing in the end except feeling like a blown up balloon. Remember, our objective here is to calm down and not get affected by your emotions. Believe me, if you really set your heart to forgive a person ( if not at least forget about what happen) you can really do it.

Answer 2

I suggest you take out a piece of paper or get on your computer and write about it till it's all out of you. Writing can be cathartic. Ask yourself these questions too; did I allow this person to do something that I could have prevented? What would be a reason for this persons infraction? Is your anger valid or is there something deeper here you need to look at instead of being angry at that person?

Just some suggestion, hope it helps.

Answer 3

To understand how to control anger, one must understand what causes it.

Lack of communication, Lack of information, and the type of question you ask yourself.

Example of "Lack of communication" - have you ever tried to explain yourself to someone and they walk away and will not let you.

Example of " Lack of information" - have you ever had someone so angry at you and you say one thing that clears up the misunderstanding. Loose your keys or for get what you were going to say.

Example of "asking yourself a unsatisfying question" - Have you ever asked yourself "Why does this always happen to me?" or "Why can I do things right?", or even a positive question like "Why does he/she love me?".

This question should never be used. For one thing the answers are never good, for another thing there are so many answer they are sure to overwhelm the mind, and then the last thing, the answers are just speculative.

As for the positive question, the answer will be good but there are so many answer they are sure to overwhelm the mind, the answers are just speculative and not apart of your reality. Example of the positive question said differently "What has he/she done for be lately that has show me that they love me?"

And of course working out or run is great but the problem will still be there.

Writing things down helps only if you can find the missing information or realize you are asking yourself the unsatisfying question.

Answer 4

You may like to have a Little talk with yourself ....and ask why you are so angry with this person , are you jealous,do you feel vindictive towards anyone, envious ,guilty of some miss deed towards them,...have you been misunderstood, have you misunderstood them , you must be honest with your self ...really honest..., rather than just dissipate this anger on anything try to locate what causes you to feel this way, then it can be dealt with appropriately , until you know its cause this emotion will always rise up and distract from your happiness

It might be worth noting that no one can make us feel(emotions) anything without us first agreeing to it ......

Answer 5

Most of the time anger comes from the lack of a chemical in your brain called dopamine. It sends out signals to the area in your brain that creates your mood. Things like excercise and other physical activities naturally set it off. Sex is also a big trigger of dopamine, but only with someone you really love and have a commitment with. Otherwise it leads to bigger complications that can make you even more angry and depressed. Chocolate is best for women. Good luck!

Answer 6

Let it flow through you and let it out. You gotta otherwise it'll paralyse you and prevent you from living. If youre angry and hurt dont try deny it or intellectulise it............Screaming is very good. If you can get to a gym and they have a punch bag then great coz you can pummel that sonbitch until you got nothing left. It really does work. Its a natural process so just let it happen and let it out.

Answer 7

Write them a letter - BUT DON'T SEND IT unless you really want to end the relationship. Just writing it out can sometimes make you see where you are being overly sensitive and you may be able to work out some solutions that you can then go to them with.

Anger is not a good thing to walk around with - and is effecting you probably more than who you're mad it. You might even want to write revisions to the letter and send a milder version. It has worked for me! Good luck...!

Answer 8

Sit in a quiet place and take a few deep breaths and close your eyes. Once you relax; picture you and that person in a place of your choice. Once you have image/picture on your mind, proceed to tell that person all about your feelings. Then after finished, tell them that you wish them good and that from that moment on you are moving on with your life and ou are closing that chapter in your life. After this take a couple of deep breath then open your eyes and say out loud ''I am happy" . Then play some of your favorite music (dance & sing loud) or favorite comedy show and laugh out loud. You'll notice a change in your attitude and feelings...

Answer 9

Breathe...
EIther that or retreat to a private corner on your own and vent, scream, shout to release the built up tension.
Usually, I take a walk to gain clarity to gather my thoughts, listening to calm, soothing music helps as well.

Answer 10

Depends, is it someone you directly have contact with? If you do, and are really that angry, just avoid them, hell even move away so you won't ever have to see their face again.

Or just wait out a few weeks/month/whaever, I'm sure you'll get over it. No one stays angry forever... they eventually die or realize there's better things to do with your life than being pissed.