I was dearly in love with Henry and became close to all of his friends my husband and I didnt get along at first but later hit it off I love my husband with all of my heart but I often wonder what my ex is up to how hes doing and I think about him often for I pass his house on my way to work I want to overcome these feelings because its not like I want him back he also is in a serious relationship but he was once very special to me is it normal for him to be on my mind so often???
2006-10-10 14:47:55 · 6 answers · asked by Ashley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is nothing wrong with thinking about your past relationships, especially if it had been one of significance and often times it's just out of curiosity. It isn't something that u can just will out of your mind. U said he was friends with your husband? Is he still his friend? Does your husband know u are curious about him? If he does know, what does he think about it?
Anyway, all I'm saying is that it's normal. They were once a part of your life and so the thought of them crosses your mind now and then. But that's where it should end. If this has anything to do about wanting some kind of closure, then I would suggest u communicate it with your husband and get the closure u need.
2006-10-10 15:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you really "love" someone, you give away a piece of your heart and you will always love them on some level. I think it is common to frequently think about someone you once loved; however, it is what you do what your thoughts that counts. If you start imagining being with Henry, comparing Henry to your husband, planning out ways to see Henry, or anything else you know your husband would be upset with, then there is a problem. Honestly, I would make it a priority to focus your thoughts on your husband and do what you can to bless him and make your marriage better. You broke up with Henry for a reason and your married your husband for a reason. Remind yourself of those things.
2006-10-10 21:57:45 · answer #2 · answered by Ann Ducketts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let bygones be bygones. Your ex is a history. Your husband is your present. Live for the present for the yesterdays are just memories. You've entered a vow to your husband and promise to love and cherish him through thick and thin, in sickness and in health, for poorer or for richer till death do you part. Focus your love to the man whom you married. Wives submit to your husband, do him GOOD AND NOT EVIL all the days of your life. He is your better half and he is your future.
2006-10-10 22:01:29 · answer #3 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normal and will lessen in time... if there are no love feelings, and you do not act on your thinking, then it is ok... he was special and a part of your life... so stop worrying and enjoy the life you have made with the man you do love........God bless
2006-10-10 21:51:49 · answer #4 · answered by Annie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shouldnt be thinking about ur ex if u realy happy withu husband, are u sure that all ur feelings for ur ex are gone? because i dont think so...burn those feelings....u wont go anywhere with them...or just hurt ur husband who i believe u love
2006-10-10 21:52:07 · answer #5 · answered by Ashlee_Hbiba 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok to talk to him and be friends with him!
2006-10-10 22:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by fire5060 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋