Well, first of all my best friends are in another country so I don't have any Close friends here. I just became a freshman and started hanging out with these two girls. Today one of em' called me a LOSER and this really hurt me. I could hurt her back by telling her she's a big fat b i t ch, but I didn't (she is heavy). I dont really talk a lot so thats probably why she called me a loser but I really am not a loser. Should I continue hanging out with them at lunch or find some new friends?
I'm not ugly or fat and I don't have a low confidence level its just that being away from my friends changed me.
I'm not like weird or anything but I just cant walk up to someone and talk to them, if your really social could u give me some tips on how to be like this.
2006-10-10 14:44:39 · 8 answers · asked by Halle Berry 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well... First of all be yourself...
Most people that act like that, do so because they themselves are feeling insecure. Perhaps about things like their weight ?
You are not, so the attack is somewhat predicable. No dout she is young. When people get older they are not so mean to each other. When you get older you will understand this more.
Right now --- Let's solve the problem.
You have two ways out of this. ?
Get new friends by just being nice to them. Find some people you like, that are like you... Offer them some new gum, and see if they want to go out...
The other is to somehow approach that person in private.
Don't call her fat or anything - even if you want to...
Just say hey.. I was wondering why you were like so mean to me when I did nothing to you.... "How about some gum to call it a truce ? I don;t have many friends and I actually like you..
Make her feel badly about what she went and did.
She will have a choice at that point. Your answer is soon to come. It will be to find others, or she will see that you are of good will and won't pick on her being FAT.
Just being near you will accent her size remember....
Keep this in mind... If she is with other large girls, she will appear small... Next to you she might look out of place !!
It might be difficult for her to keep you around...
After all... Attracting a mate is at the core of life. Even if you don't think so just yet... You could be competition, and a problem for her size issue.
Hope this helps.. Take care... I was alone much of my school years... I got use to it though.. I ended up alright.
Pick good people and you'll be ok... All you need is one or two...
2006-10-10 16:25:51 · answer #1 · answered by Skin 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anyone who says bad things about you aren't really your friends. You should get better ones. Just find out which people are nice (they are usually quiet) and start hanging out with them. They have to have the same interests as you. Just go talk to them and start hanging out.
2006-10-10 21:52:06 · answer #2 · answered by Kenneth S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hehe im there with you, .... lol .... *cries* lol But im not very social but when i moved all the way from Hawaii (to washington state) I went up to the new kids and the ones who werent very social and shy and now i have tons of friends. We are all new and a bit shy but we cope together
2006-10-10 23:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip.Its not like yall were arguing and besides all she called you was a loser(lame).
2006-10-10 23:23:47 · answer #4 · answered by Nicholais S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find new friends it is not worth being teased if they are your real friends they wouldn't say anything like that. Maybe the girl is insecure.
2006-10-10 22:03:37 · answer #5 · answered by cutieshiloh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes be a loser and lose the new "friend" you will make new friends if you dont try to force it
2006-10-11 02:46:23 · answer #6 · answered by ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get some new friends, because those people aren't your friends. They're JERKS!
2006-10-10 23:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by Yoshi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make new freinds,they sound like jeks@
2006-10-10 21:47:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋