Can I have female friends, wife know the name but don't know the women and we have phone conversations on a regular?
2006-10-10 14:38:08 · 18 answers · asked by No Love 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its really disrespectfull.....how would you feel if she had male friends calling?
2006-10-10 14:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having oppisite sex friends is fine as long as you don't shut her out and lie to her.....You should at least let her meet the other girls that you call just friends. The only time some friends that are of the oppisite sex when married should be cast out is when they have crossed over the line. ( They are wanting a bit more then just a chat on the phone or they take away the special quality time you should spend with your wife.) Also as long as u don't lie to your wife about where you are and what your doing when it is 2:00 a.m. when your really with them talking( Chat with ur female friends only during resonable hours and keep it short cause when u start to talk longer with them then u do ur wife then I think she has all rights to have you cut ties with them...
2006-10-10 15:03:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have friends as long as your wife knows who they are and have met them. Having female friends can ruin a relationship because lines tend to be crossed and trust is broken. When the trust is weak then this should not happen anyway. If having female friends makes your wife feels uncomfortable and insure then you should limit this action for the sake of the marriage. You would not feel good if your wife was talking to men that she calls her friends and doing the personal phone calls. Do phone calls take place in her presence? Affairs begin with two people who find each other interesting and attractive. For whatever reason, the relationship escalates into romance and, finally, into sexual intimacy. People who seek romance and sexual intimacy outside of their primary relationship feel that their relationship is missing something, so they go out and they seek it from someone else.
2006-10-10 15:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by michellej 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't like it at all. What does your wife say? If she has a problem with it then you need to consider what is more important to you, your wife or this female friend. If you are not willing to give up this female friend in order to make your wife happy then you need to evaluate your relationship. Ask yourself how much you really love your wife. If the wife has no problem with it, then no worries. However, it might be a good idea to introduce your wife to your friend, that is only if your wife doesnt have a problem with it.
2006-10-10 14:43:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO! it's not ok. U r not kids who are innocent. If you have female friends that you all meet at the same time then that is cool, and if she knows that she talks to both of you all. If you ever have problems with ur wife dont talk about to these "friends" and if these female friends are telling u their men problems stop it quick. These kinds of conversations are an invitation for someone to enter your personal life, and that is not fair to ur wife.
2006-10-10 14:56:15 · answer #5 · answered by Diana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it is appropriate to have close friends of the opposite sex. It leads to the temptation to cheat (especially if you complain about your spouse to them and you find them attractive) and it leaves a horrible impression on your wife and others when you spend a lot of time with someone of the opposite sex. Even if you disagree, here are some questions you should ask yourself...
1) Do you compare your wife to your female friends (physically, mentally, emotionally)?
2) Do you think about what life would be like if you got divorced or your wife died, wondering who the "next woman" will be?
3) Do you choose what you wear based on the female friends you may encounter that day?
4) Do you find yourself flirting or using sexual innuendos when conversing with your female friends?
5) Do you fantasize about being intimate with your female friends?
If you answered yes to any of these things, you need to end your "friendships" now.
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2006-10-10 14:50:31 · answer #6 · answered by Ann Ducketts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were MY husband, I'd be very pissed at you! You need to be up front with your wife. Do you have conversations with your "friend" that you don't want your wife to hear? How would YOU feel if the shoe were on the other foot? I say dump that so called friend and stick to being a faithful husband before its too late!
2006-10-10 15:29:03 · answer #7 · answered by artyspiff 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as it is all out in the open and you are not sneaking around to see these friends and your wife is ok with it then it is fine. Just be honest and communicate with your wife if she sees it is ONLY a friendship she will most likely be ok with it.
2006-10-10 14:53:52 · answer #8 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you think? If you cant talk to your "female friends" in front of your wife, then its wrong. You dont seem like a dumb person but....your actions tell me something a little different.
2006-10-10 14:44:23 · answer #9 · answered by CTMEDS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a grey area, I know I would always have my back up or wonder.
But not all of us think the same.
Why not be friends as a couple?
All it takes is one weak moment..... maybe comes from my jaded experiences but if your wife has expressed a concern....why?
2006-10-10 15:39:20 · answer #10 · answered by Keanu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as your just friends its OK,but remember your wife is your best friend now..make sure you share all with her.and make sure your other friend is at some time introduced to your wife.many problems can arise if not treated with respect
2006-10-10 14:41:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋