2006-10-10 14:36:12 · 27 answers · asked by love-a 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I don't really feel he's sexy. I was forced to marry him. Later I found out he was sleeping with other women. We have children and that's why we are staying together. Divorce would really shame our families.
2006-10-10 14:44:08 · update #1
you can't you really f*cked up. Don't marry someone and take vows of commitment if you can't stick to them. It's for better or worse not until you get tired of the sex. He should leave you
2006-10-10 14:42:36 · answer #1 · answered by KS 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
first of all that was a big blow to his ego, and it hurts a person beyond anything for their spouse to cheat. Theres no way to make him still feel sext, the first step is getting down on your knees and telling him your sorry, you have a good man for actually not leaving... kudos to him he seems like he has a clear head on his shoulders. You should spend every day from now on telling him how sorry you are and treating him with the respect and love he deserves... nothing you can ever do will take back the pain this has caused, he can forgive but people cant forget when the person they love does this to them. You have a good man you should thank your lucky stars he is still with you.
Tell him you love him every day, do everything you can to show him that you no longer think only of yourself and maybe seek some counseling for your issues because people dont cheat unless theres a reason for it and you may have some issues you need to work out within yourself
2006-10-10 21:43:23 · answer #2 · answered by beautifullybroken 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
No, you can't fool the same person for another time. Which is more shameful? Getting a divorce or getting caught in an adultery act?
2006-10-10 21:52:36 · answer #3 · answered by dtmc542006 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, you have to be in some pain right now. He has got to be feeling hurt. These are feeling that do not change easily. I think of trying to make him feel sexy, I think you need to sit down and explain why this situation happened. For some reason you felt a need to wonder and now you will have to work to regain trust understanding and love. Sexy is NOT what he needs to feel now he needs to feel valued. I would highly suggest counseling NOW and try hard to understand what feelings really need to found here.
Best of luck to you.
2006-10-10 21:43:22 · answer #4 · answered by ferretcoach 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are a cheater than you tell lies also,so what make you think that he will believe anything that you have to say anymore,cheating is low as you can go,and what gos around will come a round,and it will hurt you just as bad as it did him if not worse when you time comes either with this husband or another husband down the line.
2006-10-10 21:41:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
What you have done is decimate his self esteem. It could take years to restore the intimacy between the two of you. I wish I had an answer but unfortunately I do not. I would suggest that you both seek conseling. Apparently he want sexy enough to keep you from screwing around so I really dont understand why you are so concerned at this point.
2006-10-10 21:40:56 · answer #6 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
By the gods, just divorce. Screw the families. Family doesn't like alot of things. That doesn't make them right.
2006-10-10 21:50:52 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your a pig and you should have thought about that before you did what you did. he should leave you and not care what you think.
Divorce is a shame on ur families but cheating on him will keep u in high regards. whaaaaa whaaaaa whaaaa get a divorce, do u really think he isn't going to tell anyone? do u think ur children can't hear u fighting?
2006-10-10 21:37:25 · answer #8 · answered by and now you know 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Talk to him about what happened and how you felt. Explain why you cheated, if you know, and say you are sorrry.
Try to make up for him.
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Your "additional details" shed some light on why you did what you did. Well, if he cheats on you but you both want to stay married, then just treat him exactly as he treats you. You don´t have to feel guilty about anything.
But, think about this: you don´t have to stay married.
2006-10-10 21:39:23 · answer #9 · answered by Polete Brasil 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
the question is , do you still think hes sexy? if so , then make him believe it. lots of attention, and lots of sex. And don't listen to those yahoos. their so judgmental. just wait till something like this happens to them , they'll feel bad for their insensitive and rude comments as to your character.
2006-10-10 21:47:50 · answer #10 · answered by joy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋