My husband wants his mother n dad n his siblings to join us for new years.It sour first new yrs since we got married and id like to spend it with him. We live with husbands brother and another sister is moving back in into the house. The house originally belonged to my husband so what do i do? The brother we live with has a gf whos very sweet and comes over alot.I feel like i have no privacy but i dont wanna say anything that will make my husband think i am attacking his brother.I dont mind the brother, id just like some privacy. Now another bro is wanting to move back in, im left wondering if my husband really wonders how all this makes me feel. Its his family, and i respect them.But we even have to make love silently cause i dont wanna let go and have brother in next room here us.Then New year and Christmas he wants his parents n sibli to join us in Seattle. Parents are sweet, but my god, is it just me being selfish or what? I want to spend my first holidays as man n wife with my hub
2006-10-10 14:20:43 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Initially, I thought you might sound selfish, but I read the rest of your question and now I think this entire situation is unreasonable. You and he should be living alone, building your own family, not having brothers and girlfriends and sisters and parents and another brother all living there like it's a frat house. It's not fair to you, and it's not fair to the marriage. Why is your husband allowing this?
Frankly, the holidays would be the least of my worries- I'd be more concerned with getting all of them OUT for once and for all-- this is insane. They all need to respect YOU for a change and get their own lives.
2006-10-10 14:27:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think what you have to do is talk to your husband about how you feel. I also think you can come up with a compimise that will make everyone happy. Find a way that you can spend some time with family and still have time to just be the two of you. Since some of his family lives with you why not plan an over night someplace even if its just a night in a hotel just the two of you. Make a weekend of it or go to a bed a breakfast. Main thing is you should be talking to your husband about this. Communication is important in a marriage if you can not communicate now how are yu going to be 5 years from now...
2006-10-10 14:28:32 · answer #2 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, your home sounds like an open hotel. I think the New Years battle is the least of your worries. The fact is, he is allowing his family to come and go and interrupt your lives without even consulting you. I would put an end to this right away so that when New Years comes, you are both living a more normal newlywed life.
2006-10-10 14:26:10 · answer #3 · answered by Christy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be smart when you talk to your husband about this, they often take it as if we didn't like our new family members or as if we just try to be selfish. Most men don't understand our side of romance. I would suggest lots of love and sexy you for your husband prior to New Years day. Let him know that is fine for them to come over but that you won't be able to express your self as wild when they are here so hell think about what hell miss out on and that might change his thoughts. Trust me on this one he will think your being silly and will probably end up at their place which will totally part you from your privacy.
2006-10-10 14:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by shelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear ya.... been there. Choose other days to be alone with your husband, though... not the holidays like Christmas and New Year... those are reserved for the whole family. You know, ... family is very important... one day he might lose one of them and you don't want him saying that you tried to stop him from having that quality time with them when they were alive.
2006-10-10 14:30:05 · answer #5 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are burning out on his family while you desperatly want alone time with you hubby. Tell him this in a very nice way. Maybe even a little sensuality to the package. "Hey honey there is more of this waiting for you .Can we schedual some alone time. Like new years eve?"good luck.
2006-10-10 14:28:46 · answer #6 · answered by nancy e 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want privacy, you need to move into your own place.
My suggestion would be that, this year you do what he wants. Talk to him about spending time alone with him from now on.
He might be having trouble letting go of his family and old life. Be gentle with him.
2006-10-10 14:26:23 · answer #7 · answered by Polete Brasil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 01:31:55 · answer #8 · answered by merkel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
has he not heard of 2 company 3 a crowd. every couple needs their time. honey it is just me and my hubby, plus the dog and we lock him out of the bedroom. thell your husband that you care for his family but you would REALLY like to spend time with just him. good luck
2006-10-10 14:32:32 · answer #9 · answered by mamma bird 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telllllllllllll him A girl needs her spaceeeeeeeeeeee
2006-10-10 14:23:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋