i know this might seem like a shallow question but i want some reasonable awnsers?

Question

do people want to be liked mostly for there personality or because of there looks or both, and do overweight people want people to only be attracted to there personailities or the way they look or both. i just wanted some insight into the human psyche

Answer 1

People want to be ADMIRED for their looks and LIKED for their personality. You don't want people to fall in love and have a relationship with you based on your looks, because that means they don't even respect the personality within or underneath those looks. It is probably the same for any person whether they're tall, short, chubby, or skinny.

Answer 2

I think it's both. But overweight people want others to know that there is a human inside them, same as everyone else. Most people think that they are so different, that they don't feel shame. It's the fact that they are made to feel shame that bothers them.
I know big people, I know small people. Although looks are the first major attraction, that fades quite quickly if the good looking one thinks they're better than others merely based on looks.
I wish everyone could have a taste of both worlds, to experience a clearer view of what's truly important.

Answer 3

People want to be liked as a whole person, personality and appearance. If you have good looks, but a bad personality, then that can make you look ugly to others. And it goes both ways, if you have a wonderful personality but your looks aren't great, you can still come off more attractive than the latter. I know I would much rather hang out w/someone w/a great personality rather than an attractive a**hole.

Answer 4

Unprofessional/down to earth insight...Most everyone wants to be accepted among their peers. Looks tend to be decieving, leaving the inside to be a mystery. I'm told I look mean...When i'm actually only fiesty when provoked. My weight is a bit high for my frame...And I am resentful toward constructive criticsm on that matter...Everyone is different. But to judge one for appearance is childish. Einstein was brilliant..but he had wild hair from what we're shown in pictures..is that any indication of who he was? Nope..I know fit people who criticize overweight people daily. SHALLOW/INSECURE! I've learned that those who look at others in a negative manner due to looks are usually very disturbed about themselves, or unhappy with a facet of themselves that isn't quite perfect.

Answer 5

I am always told that I am good looking, but people tell me that I come across as a stuck up mole. This is because I am very shy and find it hard to hold a conversation when I first meet someone. So to answer your question I would like people to like both, but I would rather they like my personality if I had to choose one or the other.

Answer 6

well, some people who really are shallow, will say looks. however, an all around well balanced person will tell you their complete package is what counts. sometimes a not so good looking person will have the personality to top all personalities, which makes them very attractive. and then vice versa. sometimes a "beautiful" person on the outside is very nasty and ugly on the inside. which would you rather be?

Answer 7

Most people want to be liked and accepted for who they are, and that seems like the whole package to me. Personality is very important, but I don't think anyone would feel good if they thought that someone only liked their personality and couldn't stand to look at them.

Answer 8

why do you think people want to be liked? how do you know that's true?are you asking from your perspective? or some tangible research?most people i know don't care one way or the other if a particular person likes them or not! first mistake in psychology-never assume you know the answer unless it's your question- try asking a lot of other people if it's an issue before you decide it is-you might be surprised just how clever the masses are

Answer 9

I would hope that most people see inside my heart and like me for who I am and not the way I look. I also hope that in my children's lives they show their hearts and not their looks. I see the inside of people not what they look like. Even if I see the most beautiful person on the outs side open their mouth and be ugly on the inside, they will be flat out ugly inside and out in my eyes.

Answer 10

I think people want to be liked all around. Dont you want people to say wow ur good looking but also to be able to say, Ive never met anyone as sweet and as smart as u. See it goes both ways.