ok, well my ex-boyfreind wants to get back together and start over. I broke up with him not even a week ago! he made me cry more than i could handle and i was tired of crying over him, I even told him so. but he wont give up. we both want to be freinds but he keeps asking if we can get back together again. what do I do?
2006-10-10 14:05:21 · 5 answers · asked by Kris 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Ooh, breakups are so hard. Awkward, at best. Miserable at worst. Sigh. Still, you said it yourself, "He made me cry more than I could handle, and I was tired of crying over him." Do you really want to go back into a relationship where you are guaranteed more crying? All relationships include a certain amount of crying over time, but if a relationship includes a lot of crying, it ain't working.
You also said, "I even told him so, but he won't give up." Hey, it's flattering to think you're indispensable to someone, but often, it's something else, like a desire to control the other person.
It hasn't been all that long, so it's natural that there's a certain amount of mess. Remind yourself that you left for your own (good ) reasons, and he doesn't have to understand them (it'd be nice, but it's not absolutely necessary). What he has to do is respect them.
So you tell him that. And you tell him that this is obviously very hard for both of you, so better if you both take a little time away from each other (give him some time to adjust to the change, and yourself, too). Then, if you both still want to, you try being friends... but a friend will respect your boundaries. Here's where you start seeing if he can respect yours. Good luck!
2006-10-10 14:14:16 · answer #1 · answered by peculiarpup 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-05 15:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by Connie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has made you cry over him often, that wont change for long if you get back together. He's just feeling raw and desperate and needy. You probably shouldn't give in to it if you really feel that you shouldn't be together. That wouldn't be healthy. Really though, you can't be "just friends" right now. You need some time away from each other to get your own perspectives back. Trying to remain friends right now is only going to prolong things and make it hurt longer. Bow out with dignity and self respect.
2006-10-10 14:17:06 · answer #3 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 12:31:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to date him again, I suggest not being friends until he gets over you. After that try to be friends. Good luck.
2006-10-10 14:08:27 · answer #5 · answered by tannedknight45 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋