Sex and Marriage at 14 years of age?

Question

Can you tell me the psychological implications of a girl having sex the first time and getting married to a man that is 25 years old?

This was an arranged marriage, and there was no say.

Note: This happened a good 80 years ago.

Answer 1

80 years ago the world was a different place and morals were different. Girls were expected to marry and often at an early age in order to have plenty of good child bearing years ahead of them. Because it was acceptable to marry so young,chances are her age didn't have a huge impact on her psychological well-being. People did not live as long then as they do now so childhood ended earlier by necessity....children were needed and expected to help support the family so marriage at 14 was just part of adulthood which had probably already been reached. As far as an arranged marriage goes,that probably had more impact on her mental health than her age because it took away her freedom of choice and thrust her into a situation of total dependence and servitude...never giving her a chance to realize her hopes and aspirations. My great-grandmother married the first time at the age of 15 to a 31 year old man and had a total of 5 husbands,each one dying and leaving her to support her family alone. She did OK and raised some great kids so marrying young apparently didn't hurt her but she picked the men which gave her some control over her life. Loss of any control over your life can be very devastating.

Answer 2

80 years ago I dont think a lot of psychological damage would have been done. It was the custom, and girls knew in advance that this was to happen, so it was just part of their life. It only becomes psychologically damaging when times change and customs change. It is a cultural thing, and whether we agree with it or not, if you grow up knowing what your role is, then there is no confusion so I believe no psychological damage would have been done. It only is psychologically damaging if we are forced to do something we know is wrong. In those days it wasnt considered wrong, it was just something that was the accepted norm.

Answer 3

80 years ago, this happened all the time. My grandmother was married to my grandfather when she was 13. He was 22. In those days, no birth control, parents had large familys and they married there children off young to be taken care of.

My grandparents where married for 60 plus years. Had 14 children of there own, and then had over 100 grandchildren. They loved each other deeply until the day they died.

Answer 4

80 years ago there were different moral and attitude toward marriage. I think girls were married at earlier age than now and it was legal. Presently 14 year old is too young to be married in the USA.

Answer 5

sure, frequency is lots extra initially, which suits on lowering gradually with time. certainly, formerly each and every little thing evening after wedding ceremony, doing that for the 1st time in existence for the two bride & groom, the deep love, affection, interest, enthusiasm, pastime & craze are at their peaks & frequency is specific to be bigger. If the two look after their bodies reliable & extra wholesome by persevering with care continuously, then in basic terms the frequency is continuous yet help of that slowly with age is organic. intercourse will advance mutual deep love, affection , intimacy & has a dozen well being advantages too proved medically. it is mandatory for the couple to a minimum of on an popular basis love one yet another bodily as common workouts for no less than a million/2 an hour on a tender mattress at a fastened term say from 8.00 - 8.30 or so by beginning off all clothing from the bodies different than underclothes/panty by kissing, smooching, hugging & pressing one yet another's physique muscle groups 'gently'. Such common exterior sexercise maintains consistent love & affection & will advance the frequency of sexual intercourse that's clever for the two increasing toughness too. it quite is a shown actuality.

Answer 6

This happened a good 80 years ago.you sid that your self. 80 years ago life expeciny was maybe 22 if you were lucky. people got married young my great grandma was 14. Loretta lin was 14 when she got married to.

Answer 7

It was quite acceptable then. My friend's mother had my friend when she was only 13 years of age. So it happens. Not such a good idea now because we're more aware of things now.

Answer 8

80 years ago they did stuff like that. for a minute i thought you were talking about me. this happened to me when i was 14, but we were seperated by his family and i still love the guy, i really want him back, but he has a family and so do i. my kids are grown, but he got started late and his kids still need him, but since i found him, i am miserable, i really want my husband back.