positive and negative aspects of setting boundaries to avoid being taken advantage of?

Answer 1

First, there are never negative aspects to setting boundries. They are to protect you, so how is that at all negative?

Second, you want to sit quietly and do some thinking about how you have been taken advantage of in the past and see where your part was in it. Then, act as if you are advising someone else, how would you advise them to not make this mistake? Then, take your own advice.

Third, there are many good self-help books out there to help you understand how to set and keep boundries. But most importantly, understand why you don't have good boundries in the first place. It usually goes back to your family of origin and how dysfunctional that was or is and how that affected you and your boundries.

I suggest you may want to discuss this too with a good counselor through talk therapy.

Answer 2

Positive effects: If all parties are fully informed of said boundries and limits to natural interaction that they govern, an understanding is in effect.
negative effects: Boundries limit you as much as the proposed and assumed boundries will limits others in a free form dialogue.
Whitout Honesty there can be no Trust, without Trust, Honesty is a moot issue.
Do not build walls that divide, break down the barriers that only limit input and usually a better understanding.

Answer 3

Positive is that you will probably avoid being taken advantage of. Also, looking strong and centered. Some will resent you for it is the only negative I can think of.

Answer 4

You'll find people real intentions and sometimes that's a good thing- other times being human and all we don't want to know how shallow other people can be. It can make you cynical and distrusting but without boundries we walk around with an ingnorant bliss. Bliss or truth- that's the choose.

Answer 5

-------------------- +-ves --------------------

* You'd avoid feelings of hurt, betrayal, distrust, disloyalty; basically ANYthing & EVERYthing that's negative
* You'd be stronger, a "fighter" not easily fooled/ played
* You have a stronger sense of self, newfound confidence


-------------------- - ves --------------------

* You're building "walls" around you which makes it tougher for people to reach you be it personally, intimately, etc
* You would be denying yourself of "living" or reality
* Probably shutting out people from getting close to you and/ or being loved

Answer 6

well if you dont have boundaries youll end up being a slut, and if you do then you dont really get to have sex all that much...take your pick. me personally, i would find a nice boyfriend wholl **** you as much as you want