I feel really betryayed. One of my best friends had danced with my other best friend at the dance and acted like it was no big deal even tohugh it was a big deal. We got in a fight because of her exboyfriend and hte guy she likes. The teo guys and I were hugging and she got all jealous and felt betrayed even tohugh I ahve no interest in those guys and they are just my really good friends. What should I do about my friend? Thanks in advance for your help?
2006-10-10 13:59:22 · 15 answers · asked by IloveDr.Will K 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
You should be honest about what you are feeling without making accusations or being so judgmental. Use "I" statements instead of attacking. That means saying "I felt betrayed when I saw you dancing with my friend" instead of "You betrayed me when you danced with my other friend." That lets you explain that you are having the feelings whether the actions justify your level of reaction or not.
You might even want to say at the beginning how much your friendship means to you and that you are upset about it being harmed by misunderstanding by one or both of you.
Jealousy is an ugly thing that can ruin friendships and one thing you must do is decide on your priorities. A good friend should be more important than someone who "might" be a boyfriend for a short time. Maybe you can discuss in advance who you are interested in and set some ground rules. You also need to understand that just because you feel that way about some guy doesn't mean he'll feel the same way. Some guys may even play you against each other if they see there is jealousy or a competition.
You also might consider your friend is feeling the exact same way. You say the hugging was "no big deal" but obviously she felt otherwise, just as you did about the dance. Call up all you have meant to each other, realize that this is in the scheme of life very small potatoes and try to make up with each other.
2006-10-10 14:40:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well - First off tell her that you have no interest in them.
Second of all just dancing with someone is meaningless. I guess at an early age it might mean something, but really now.
Both of you should think about this a bit. Looks to me like you need to have a talk. Just go over and ring the door...
Don't call.... Don't write... Just walk on over and ring the bell.
Put her right in front of you, and talk it out. Ask her what she wants, and tell her what you want.
Bring some gum and blow a bubble... Life is full of ups and downs. Relax and enjoy them.. Even if they feel like the end of the world.. Its really nothing... Its just that it seems like it.
Boys will dance with anything that stands on two feet ! The are a dime a dozen. Nothing to fight about. They will go out with who ever they want, and then some.
? No boy is worth a friendship.. WELL ... A true friendship anyway...
2006-10-10 16:34:11 · answer #2 · answered by Skin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope im getting this right. If you and your best friend are having an argument, y'all need to work it out. If she's really your friend then you both need to realize that your friendship is not worth losing over guys. You need to talk this out and settle your differences. If you liking any of these guys has anything to do with the fight y'all are having, then you need to tell her its a misunderstanding. Allow her to know you don't really like these guys. Tell her they are just ur friends. In all of this you need to remain calm and rational. Just talk it out. If she's really your friend, she'll understand and things will be back to normal. Good Luck!
2006-10-10 14:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by Pretty face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make clear detailed discussion.If it's a private thing we do need to understand mutually,do not do the fighting again,that's help nothing.The close friends remain forever and each parties will accept,make no harm will be the best choice. .
2006-10-10 14:10:31 · answer #4 · answered by Chuong Seng Ly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your friend, if she's a good friend then she will listen tell how you fill about the situation, and I'm sure that you wan't to keep a friendship, so just talk it out.
2006-10-10 14:11:02 · answer #5 · answered by Shas 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. It sounds like a misunderstanding - I'm sure you can work it out.
2006-10-10 14:03:11 · answer #6 · answered by puma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats a stupid thing to fight over.
2006-10-10 14:09:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok why is it a big deal if two of your friends were dancing...i'm a little confused. ok i'm just confused.
2006-10-10 14:02:23 · answer #8 · answered by my101201cutiepie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is ur friend a guy or girl are u gay not tring to be rude if ur not just confused
2006-10-10 14:15:25 · answer #9 · answered by Pretty in pink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is just stupid. And if your friend can't get over it don't worry about it.
2006-10-10 14:26:17 · answer #10 · answered by beckychr007 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋